The need for common measurement to our morals (P3/4)

Philosophers discussed the question: are the powerful morals the same as the morals of powerful people? And is the power (or the ability to do what the person wants) enough to measure a value as a good or bad? Or that must be a look at the benefits meanwhile?

And since some people can avoid every possible punishment for their bad doings (besides their perspective about living this life and only); we get that the fears aren’t enough to keep the person committed to noble morals. Because they can escape and succeed to get in what they aspire whatever the environment truly is in.

If the fears that comes for the environment generally (and from others in particular), and to easily avoid any possible punishment, we’ll need another factor to keep the control, it’s the self-control. When the person exceeds the level of worrying about what others may do in return, to reach the level of worrying about the self-fulfillment; where the person carries such inner reference for self-controlling.

That mechanism comes from the faith that’s locate into the person himself due the convictions s/he has, to prevent him from doing anything wrong even if he can avoid that social judgment. And instead of just caring about their reactions towards him; he’ll care about his (re)-action towards others. Because he has an unseen faith that everything he does; will certainly be judged for, even if he can escape the social judgment. And that’s the advantage which takes out the bad traits in the human and elevate from his value in the existence. But may a faith bring such feelings although it’s not doing that deep effect into the person.

Moreover we can still have some misunderstanding and maybe an opposition too about the same matter, that's why the question will be:  beside the fears and the self- controlling; what else we need to do too? What’s the more criteria we need for reaching the point of being agreed on common values and morals? (to stabilizise the people's life).

The need for common measurement to our morals (P1/4)

I've said before about the troubles that can be due the differences in interpreting the facts and reactions towards, when people confuse the terms and they differently determine them which can lead to contradictions.

I give another picture for that, the Bosnian schools for example, and even in same city, they have different lessons for history subject, because the different perspectives towards the last war they've had, and each community teaches the subject in starting from its personal view and not necessary to telling the truth most of times. Such situation can show the gap that exists into the depths of the same society to be fragile, moreover the troubles that can happen because of that (like the national pride or national spirit as one of common issues which isn’t in fact and that may destabilize the country). because each side reads the events in a way different than the other side, different reasons, different excuses and different consequences, we reach - at the end - different measurements while everyone has his own system to evaluate facts and situations, because they started from different platforms to treating the issue, those different measurements don't bring harmony, neither to stabilize enough the social life of people although the same circumstances they share.

I stopped last time with a question, which measurement should we rely on to define properly the platform (for all people who share same situation) with clear principles and based on morals we've to share?

When everybody is living life according his personal principles, and each one is looking after his happiness ad success through certain perspective -based on some interests- which can be completely in the opposite of someone else. And what someone sees as a good thing and fulfilling the happiness, someone else may see it horrible and kind of corruption. Such difference is what breaks the harmony of being in social life and prevent the civilized progress.

If we look after the morals and their beginnings, people appreciate generally certain values but they can be different sometimes until being in contradictions while someone appreciate something whereas the other appreciates absolutely the opposite in fact. we find out that one of the reasons and the explanations of beginning; it was to guarantee the social interest to living into a group of people (society) through certain rules and without neglecting the individual. Because if every individual started looking after his personal satisfactions, and to getting his own benefits; then it'll be hard to establish a society, because there is be transgression on others and their rights aswell.

For this fact; it was necessary that everyone must renounce some of their demands and requirements willingly to guarantee the safety (from any transgression) and the freedom (to dreaming and looking after goals), that kind of balancing between issues can lead to the peace between people of the same environment.

That renouncing can be in many different ways, or all together, such as discussions, learning about, experiences and measuring the consequences from. The next question is: on which bases we can be sure that the renouncing is fair and just for us as same as it's for the others? And how do we realize and guarantee that others also are ready to offer that renouncing?

The importance of the belief (part 03)

    Let’s continue from where we stopped before, and to mention some points here. The fearing of god → means that this person is thinking in sequences before doing everything, and not only –as everybody can do that too-, but s/he remembers that he’s having limits that s/he shouldn’t exceed them, and even when it’s possible to do and nobody can notice that but it’s invalid to doing that, then preferably to avoid as a choice and with a conviction→ which means also the self-control even when nobody else can notice that, and no collapse in behaviors or in values, from here the humanity got its moral culture, and in this context; people do a lot of thing in good sense in their around, without waiting anything in return from others, then they’re applying certain of real noble principles towards the world and humanity → and during that, s/he will be doing his/her obligation (with conviction of course) towards everyone (everything) around as much as possible for the god’s sake, and fearing god of hurting them too in every treatment or dealing with, that can look meaningless for those who didn’t experiment that really, because the god’s satisfaction is what s/he is looking for -in first place- and always there is a reason to stop them even if they get a bad intention in something.

    And when the goal is common between all people (and prior than the private interests and only), then it’ll be fair for all to agree with that rule, which shows the justice in front of all people alike, right. Because it’s so impossible to have a contradiction in purposes here between the god's satisfaction and people's agreement in such situation while all rules are applied on all at the same time and way.

    That’s above when we talk about the influence of religion on people’s transactions and dealings, and when we talk about the spiritual impact, we’ll see something else, may people today accuse the religious as weak people and they don’t trust themselves enough to face the life, in other words they claim the perfection and no need to any religion to live a proper life whereas they’re worshiping different idols when they don’t know, but the human nature requires to fill the spiritual side and complete that need inside, so historically many people left the religion when they don’t find their peace inside, but not only, they didn’t just accuse the way they were on, but generally the term of religion became inexistent for them completely, just from the only one experience they had, and that’s why they rejected all.

    Scientist and Philosophers confirm the belief as a part of every single soul, even those who make the mind just the only way to ruling the life instead of any other religion (which is useless), and to ruling the life by mind, it’s necessary to belief in the power of their minds and that are able to do everything, so without that certitude in their power and their authenticity, they can’t rely so much on their mind, and that means the belief. Religion was like a shadow of the humanity since the first age in obvious way that nobody can deny it.

    But Then they couldn’t continue in this way, because the spiritual side is empty and they’ve to cover it, not because the creator needs the obedience of human to him, but because the inner need of human to his creator to filling the spiritual emptiness, therefore a lot of people were( /are still ) looking for that mean to filling the shortage in the Far East (especially in the philosophical currents of Hinduism and Buddhism) or and learn that by their money instead of following the steps of their spiritual physicians sent by the god (like one scholar has said). As examples, people are learning yoga, or tai-chi, although we can’t deny their advantages on body and mind, like some other sports too, but not enough to cover all the spiritual needs in the modern life even if they calm down a bit that need, but can’t resist longer nor getting nirvana with life’s hardships.

    Furthermore, nowadays the social and economic pressures on every person are more than they were in decades before, because the world’s situation troubled in different sides, and so the feelings of fear increase too into everyone, that what explain (according studies) the inclination to astrology just to hearing what they want to hear and calming down their fears from totally the unclear future.

    People without a metaphysical stability are facing a lot of changes in the physical world, and they get many colors of distraction in life to have that chaos and wonder always, that lead many times to waves of depression, wondering, suicide ….etc. This last has high rates among the no-religious societies, and that reveals on the loss of the goal into their hearts, why do we live? And for which purpose are we living a period of certain years then leave this world? The true meaning from life totally is into the answer. Can the mind works with religion together to give a convenient answer?

The advantages of travelling across the world

   I continue in the idea that says: “Not everything you think it’s good for you; it’s truly the good one.”

   The traveling is something exhausting for everyone although today it’s easier -and a lot- than it was in the past. I won’t talk about touristic traveling here, but I mean when the traveling is a necessary and obligatory in somehow -maybe from a city to another, or even to go to a different country-.

   Usually in those situations; people taste the batter of hard moment to be obliged to do that. That’s one among events which seem bad in first glance, right!! But the history told us many similar experiences and just different in details. The idea is when you feel yourself obliged to leave your current environment for certain reasons, means that you couldn’t get there (in where you’re now) what you look for, and that becomes helpless to you. It’s hard to quit your comfort zone (as many psychologists call that), whereas it doesn’t mean always to be bad as people think (or as imagine), and one scholar and poet said (before centuries)

   For reaching your goals and satisfying your vim; Immigrate in different countries, because you’ll get five benefits from traveling:

The translation is :

 * Immigrate in the homelands to appealing the summits in life, because in traveling there are five (05) benefits:

1- relief of your worries, 2- acquisition of livelihoods, 3- a science and literatures, 4- decency, and 5- a precious companionship whom you really can coexist with them (he meant : the travel shows you the right person who deserves to be your companion).

* And if they tell that in traveling there is humbleness, or an ordeal, and crossing deserts with difficulties of meeting [with family and relatives, which isn’t as hard as in past]; so the death is better for the person instead of sitting at home for deterioration, and suffering from the slander, the censure, or the envy.

   That’s what the poet said from his knowledge and experiences, and to motivate people to traveling without any fears from it, because to be in different place surrounded by different people, all those sides can show the person more opportunities in the new different environment, because s/he can see their life from new perspectives, as the poet said and it can be the opening of your future and the good life in few months of years later. Moreover the advantages and bounties we mentioned above here.

    Many people exploded their powers and reached their horizons just when they travelled and lived in far place different to their hometown city -or country-, because they met with new chances, and their different looking way to the life, then they can see the opportunities which they can work on (whether in studies, or professional career, or any interest in social life of people). They quickly adapt with the environment and naturally they get the inner motivation because it’s a new experience and there is an enthusiasm inside to do more in it, and usually they achieve their goals with some persistence, also they got more skills and experiences in life.

    If you keep your optimist mood and patience, then don’t regret nor doubt from your previous steps, to be sure and confident and strong enough (not to be confused from). To trust them (those experiences) for making new steps forward and while the goal is to improving yourself always; then you’ve to accept starting modestly and convinced.

    And I finish with this adage of one wise man when he said: “I don’t care in the way how I’ll become [in each morning] good or bad, because I don’t know truly where the goodness for me is: in what I like or what I dislike.”

Part 03: differences equity & equality

   To continue the ordinary process of life ; people in life clash with many difficulties during the daily routine.

   I always simulate the destiny in life to the tree, the starting of life begins from the root and what they can offer to you as traits circumstances and characteristics and when the person starts really the life and each decision makes a real difference. It means you’re in way crossing so you’ll take one of mains branches on the tree (your tree), then the actual conditions in that will lead you again and again to more branches along your life.

   Generally the tree’s branches display how many possible way were in your life since the birthday, but your decisions and your starting too were the guide all the time towards the situation that you’re right now.

    I give you here another example, the god’s wisdom and ability are occurring in the nature and it’s almost talking in this following way:  excuse me Madame! This is not your way, you can’t pass from it, but you should pass from the easiest one in the other side there, this is just according to the men’s abilities that can resist here. And the same words are for men in other sides of life, also depending to the kind of their abilities and I want to say that the equity never refers the passing from the same way, else it’ll be equality and that’s unjust for some people in many times alike.

    We need to understand that in our minds and to realize well that’s not necessary to be with others in the same way, to be sure you’re the same like them. That leads us to another rules we should learn in this life; don’t unleash absolutely your freedom, until you hurt yourself, people or environment around you! while you aren't aware about that.

    Those ways in everybody’s life are representing his destiny, and like that the destiny offers sometimes the good ways we should benefit from. But we often see the good things -for us- just when they’re according to our desires, although it’s not true always. We can see that in many events happen in our lives, people interpret it like a nature power, but they agree it’s an extraordinary thing above the human. Of course it the life’s nature; coming from the absolute ability of its creator.

What are the serious matters that the person has to think about ?

    As we said before, the mind’s mission can’t be shorten only in creating and innovating new things in the people’s lives, we can’t deny the grace of great innovations those came to us from great minds during centuries, and of course they did a great favour for all the humanity, but we’ve also something else more important to do in the same time depending directly to the self of everyone (they might do it and no one can do it instead of another, because it’s a direct importance for every person).

    In this part, we’ll show some parts that are concerning this side of human life. Perhaps some people who are very successful in their lives, but they’re living in hell inside home, or they’re struggling with health problems too, and they can’t fix their personal problems at home even the most simple ones, and he can’t be so pleasant by his life although he’s successful person in his goals. Or maybe the reverse too Right ! So, what to do in this situation?

    Scientists confirm that the human life is based on several pillars so be stable such as (spiritual, social “familial & personal”, emotional, professional, physical health, and material). And whenever the person has a trouble in one among these principal pillars, be sure that this person has an instable life.  And the happiness is relied on the balance between all sides of life. If there is any side smaller than others there’ll be instability in the life of that person, so the matter necessitates a serious care about to recover the balance again by focusing more on that leanness side and decreasing from other strong ones.

    Finally, I ask everybody who reads to draw that wheel of those six sides and evaluate himself in each one from “0” (zero) in the centre of wheel until “10” in the circle. Then you’ll find out how is going your wheel? Is it running well? So where is the defect in, and then what’s the next procedure to handle it?

    The minority of people only who recognized in life that many matters are as important as the material things and professional career. When you‘re thinking always in way how to develop your career, don’t forget to look how to keep your peace inside and repose your soul by satisfying your spiritual needs (which looks marginal in many times); meantime by thinking for a way to preserve the strong ties in your familial life, interacting with people, and so on.  Like that every person can attain the minimum at least to realize himself and do an important step towards his happiness.

What does everybody need? (To realize his existence correctly in life).

The human is the only creature on the planet that possesses a mind, and he’s featured by this great grace between all creatures to find out the reason and the purpose from his existence in the world. It means that all creatures in the universe are created to be devoted for the human, and realizing his existence.  But not all people have the luck to discover that with the truth which says that everybody is created for a specified reason.

Habitually; we got the first information from people around us who experimented them before, in other words it’s a ready knowledge we obtain easily from others, and that’s running ordinarily between generations.  The past provides an immense service for humanity to learn lessons from mistakes of previous people (individuals or in groups). Those previous experiences can guide us to developing ourselves in the everyday life (in all its details). It was the mind that let the humanity did great steps towards the luxury of life and civilization during centuries and eras. The lifestyle of people is growing up constantly and always there is a new thing comes (from creative minds) to our world in order to facilitate the life and to make it easier and more comfort than before. We can see an interpretation of that in several things around us whether in material or mental products and creations; we can touch the progress in comparing with previous eras.

That mission (which the mind provides to us) requires to keep moving on the same road, learning from previous mistakes, and correct into the current life, all that for serving the next generations to have a life better than ours now, we teach them from childhood to establish on the previous gained -knowledge (and start from where the previous are stopped, like defining the headlines of life)then they continue the process in the same context and of course the same mission that the mind is required to do.

When the destiny leads you to a side that you didn’t want (looks like that in first time), and although you spared no effort to get that, don’t be so upset from it because you reached the side that you need in fact (instead what you want), the god’s wisdom wanted to give you what’s necessary and important for you right now, your mind can’t recognize all at same time whereas your creator can do, so respect that and accept in your life and don’t be rush in getting your desires.

During that time, the mind has to do something else, it’s depending to the everyday life, serious matters which every person must think and care enough about them. Those matters are relying on the human life generally from the beginning until the end, the next time; we’ll show generally the essence of these serious matters.

“A life without decency is a silly life, without a mission or responsibility it’s so stupid life and so bored life when there isn’t a goal from the whole life.”  - Dr. An-Nabulsi.

I can’t bear more, is there any hope?

    Several problems that can be at work, or health problems, familiar or personal problems too, the human being (in his life) is exposed to have, which apply a huge pressures on him. The matter to deal with is difficult of course, and it’s depending to his view to the matter, and his way to deal with. This situation leads to have an impression of no way to reaching a happy end after all that.

    When someone realize that the people around are living a perfect life without problems, and only he who suffers from that, he feels himself so weak. The feeling of weakness -because of the hard circumstances- makes the life so difficult, and that can affect on the entirely life of the person, in his work, at home with family, or with himself because of the pressures applied from those circumstances. That feeling comes when the person thinks himself the only person who’s flopping in bad times, and that’s the reason of the weakness.

    I heard from someone that it seems like “the life is playing a strange game in this way” because of some illness and other stuffs too (the reason can be everything, but I can take that as example), that’s hard a little because of no outlet to make an end to the problem.  Maybe you’ve the same situation in your life like with my friend, just with differences in details or places only, and it’s happening with everyone.

    the people whom you see in everywhere in streets, at work, on TV, all have that strange game, only it doesn't appear for you in the same way that it appears in their lives, what appears from your perspective is only their interface, and behind; there is a big mess in the life, people usually are keen to show only the perfect sides which are shining in the life to fascinating others, and the same with everyone in his life when he deals with others, then others will get the impression that he’s living a perfect life whereas he isn’t. So we can realize that some people have really a game stranger than yours as other have less too. You –or everyone- only think the inverse about others, when they all struggle with that and constantly they keep trying to cope, but to overcome that strange game (problem), it’s not depending only to resources (opportunities) of everyone but also his energies and his thoughts as well. Because if you’ve a gleam into your heart that protect you from being completely upset for 100%, so there is a little bit of positive energy to work by it in order to exploiting your remaining time.

    The previous article discussed this matter, I mean when you’re obliged to do something valuable in your life, it’s better to do your best in it, with a wish to get the result that you look for, instead to deepen in your fears towards the worse. So you do your best when you’ve that hope of course. Because the hope -that you will reach a situation better than you’ve now- is the essence of activeness to someone for changing his life towards the best. 

Is the matter valuable to deserve more effort? Part 03

    I want to summarize what I talked about in last two articles, about motivating yourself by yourself when no way to get that from your environment.

Some people also get motivation when they’ve companions in the same way and they’re working in the same target, the problem is in once that these people around stopped for certain reasons, this person also gives up continuing the work on that purpose. So even if nobody is beside you, don't think it's the end, because you can draw your road in different way towards the goal, if you don’t have affability, or any previous model to follow for encouragement only, you can be the first model for yourself and don’t hesitate to try doing your best, right ! Because it can be with incredible findings on you in somehow.

    It’s very bad that feeling when you’re upset from realizing something you want a lot, these eagerness didn’t missed at all, just it was inanimate (a dormant power) because you got preoccupation with something else. It’s a matter depending a lot to the human psychology that you can play on your feelings, apply some tips to renew your fervency and eagerness to get what you desired to have (recall in mind the importance of this matter in your life as we shown before), and in the results; your hidden feelings see the light again lead them towards your aims in the positive sense of course.

    You know generally, whatever your circumstances are in life, remember after the tightness, they will come the easy times where it’s widen around you (I mean the easiness in your circumstances), and after any hardship that you clash in life, the situation will change to be better and joyful for you. Because it’s a feeling when you get easiness in your everyday life (in comparing with previous hardship) you’ll absolutely feel better than before. Those general words can work in every situation you’ve, you want something, but the situation didn’t help enough to get it, and that‘s still important for you to get in your life. So it’s possible to change it if you hadn’t any new factors affecting on the matter.

    By the way, many people live in the past by their minds whereas their bodies are in the present, we shouldn't rely our life on something we don't possess it yet, and also don't regret on something you can't change, but think about the next step how should it'll be, besides, if you worry about something didn't come, it's better to work enough effort and do your best (when you still have time to do something useful in road) in order to tend far from that you're worried from instead  worrying and regretting after  (that's what we mean by doing more effort). The optimistic mood can bring you the motivation without any extern factor, or you deliberately interpret them towards the positive way to motivate yourself and renew your inner motivation.

    That was the summary and I hope it’ll be helpful to think again and more, deeply about the matter that you’re working on to get, to handle, or to achieve it.

: Is the matter valuable to deserve more effort? Part 02

   We talked last time about an important matter, the self-treatment to continue the working on any project or goal that you want to reach it, and I said that the right and objective definition of the matter from the point of its importance or no in your life. That answer can help you to do the next; we’ll make more examples to explain that.

    Another example: your target is fixed by a time, like your exams will be after a week or 2, a year or just some hours) but you can’t study to them, some laziness and of course no motivation and a little hopeless. Surely where there are exams it’s an important matter for you. And there is some times, it means you still have more time to improve your chance to be closer (to your goal) than before (and here in example; it means also a hope, and an opportunity to keep something in your mind and remind yourself by previous gained knowledge). I can tell something here, logically if you don’t do any effort you won’t pass your exams? But if you think positively; When you start studying probably you won’t reach 100% of your preparation on day of your exams, right, but at least with that effort you’ll realize about 80% (more or less), this percentage isn’t great whereas it’s good enough to enter your exams with hope and in optimistic mood.

    So what prevents you to do your effort? At least you won’t regret on exams’ day that you wasted your time whatever the end is pleasant or not, besides your relaxing inside that you really did your best. You had an experience to be responsible under your pressures, better than being neutral, losing time, mood, and opportunities. In other words; you still have time to do some useful and fruitful effort to achieve a positive result. So find yourself a reason that deserves to do more efforts to ….(here: to learn that), benefit from your time, and invest in it (like in economy +0.01 means a growth and it’s a positive indicator).

    Simply; when you’ve to do something in a certain period, you know it’s very important, so try to do it perfectly, do your best during that period and benefit the most possible you can from it, right! At least when you fight for your goal, you won’t regret later if you lose it.

    That was an example to show the matter how to motivate yourself. You can compare this example with everything in your life that you’ve a project to do, an interview of job, an exam, a presentation, …etc. we don’t neglect some fun from time to time, but it deserves some seriousness from you in order to achieving your goals in life and improving your career. And remember! Because you’re convinced that it’s so important matter for you and your life, and you’ve to do it in the end; so find for yourself the suitable motivation to do it. When you create that inner motivation (or renew it again), you won’t give up even if you stop for years, you’ll retake again one day later.

    Next time; we’ll discuss another matter, it’s depending to one of the human values in life.

Is the matter valuable, to deserve more effort?

    All people are wishing to achieve a lot of things in their lives everyone in the entirely world is working on a plan to get a result in the end in order to make his life comfort, it’s concerning his family, study, career and job, and then it’ll be easier than before.

    But the plan doesn’t work correctly sometimes, and several factors comes within events of daily life suddenly and unexpected, so these factors show the going on plan and add more pressures in the matter, which leads to giving up before reaching the , where the person feels himself remaining in the same place too.

    No enough resources, no free time, no possibilities to do right now, …etc, in general; it’s going to the same sense of “no motivation”, then what to do in that situation?

   When you find yourself in that case, you’ve to handle it by yourself firstly you estimate your target again, does the matter deserve to fight for it? and goal (to work on) is important in your next life? May I give an example here, a student who learns a new language who tried long time with no progress in his linguistic level, so he feels disappointed after that and thinks to abandon. But the answer of that question is depending on your needs, is it important really for you to get that thing (to speak that language in future, maybe it’s job or post-graduating, …etc) ? if it’s the fact , so you shouldn’t stop definitely your learning even if you take a break time, but make it temporary only! Because in every time you remember what you planned to gain in your life after ending that matter (here: being fluent let me do…., and …etc ), it pushes you to be motivated again for the serious working and sets fire in your heart to be hopeful for being like you already planned and like you see in your vision. That’s what’s called the inner motivation regardless to the environment around.

    How to do that? You already estimated the importance of your doing and the necessity to getting for improving your career in next years. So you’re obliged to create the motivation by yourself to keep moving on. Because you don’t need anybody to remind you again that it’s something so important for you and you’ve to do it, and, …etc. I continue with the same example: you’ll have to spend a certain time in class (maybe some hours every week), and you’ll insist to be present and you paid also your fees. So why you can’t pass that time in learning seriously when you’ve to pass it in all cases?

    In the next article, I’ll give another example to tell some reasons make you think about your own business (whatever its kind) and how to push yourself ahead in getting your goal when you really believe that’s precious for you. 

Is the asking of advice making us look weaker?

    In the same context of the previous articles; when we said that the human life is a part from social life, and it can’t continue normally separately alone. when you think that your existence is a part from social existence; you’ll deal and interact with people more and many great values appear and strengthen. So you communicate, discuss different matters, help and asking help too. That’s the way that people develop in their minds, find out different cultures and knowledge, and get always new perspectives.

    Every one passes by bad circumstances, and some hard times come across his life’s irregular moments, in those times; the problems weaken the person who undergoes them in somehow. Sometimes the situation leads to the matter that we already talked about in last two articles “the loneliness”, and this choice isn’t pleasant neither likable.

    But some others; they prefer to overcome these cruel times in way to face them instead the isolation. So they look for an exit or outlet to exceed the circumstance that they have currently. They think about a way to handle it, regardless if it’s a moral problem or depending to some life’s responsibilities.

    The smartest people are who share this situation with others to contributing in the way to resolve the problem, two minds are thinking together it's better than one only, and when three minds are thinking it's the best. And the luckiest people too are who find the suitable person to share with. You’ll add more experiences to yourself although you didn’t experiment them or test them at all. And that protect you to be mistaken in your next step and what you should do among a lot of choices. Through the advice you can get rid of your fogginess and you won’t be confused anymore.

    Whatever; we all know that your brain can do the necessary and it’s enough, but we are talking for the better option, for example, when you ask about an opinion, they think in free and they look to the matter from different perspective than yours. In contrast; with concerned person can’t do it normally in many times because of pressures of short time or having a bad mood, no energies for doing, …etc, don’t allow a quiet reflection.

    If you didn’t find with whom you share and ask advices to make a clear view about your actuality to pursue the life, work.., it doesn’t mean that it’s bad choice to let others contribute in solution of your problems, they are just suggestions when you listen well and in the end it’s your decision to choose what to do next. Probably you didn’t meet yet such as cruel circumstance for this reason or that, and it’s not weakness when you ask advice from the true person whereas it’s just an advisory option in order to light your mind by a different though, economizing your energies in road, and shortening time toward the solution and getting your target easier.

    We’ve a saying that says: “the fruits of experiences are the good choice”, and the asking of advice - when it’s necessary - sometimes; enters within this point. To get benefits from the fruits of gardens besides of yours.

An overview of previous articles about democracy

    We talked I last 10 articles basically about one topic only, “the democracy of new century and its faces” and we tried to discuss the matter from different sides, political, religious, social, and economical.

    We mentioned the historical point about the democracy and the context which it took to be in the way we know today. Also the discussion shown some parts of its principles and main one regarding to the absolute freedom of human power with no interference from his religion and we brought some evidences besides makings questions, that background intervenes directly in every position comes in front of whether human being,  organization or government.

    The second aspect, about social life into the shade of the known democracy, displayed numerous problems inside, and how the life isn’t look the same like it appears generally, when we find out the details in depth of societies.

   The last one was talking mainly about the economic side, and this last has huge troubles and instability from the governmental procedures and regulations until reaching the simple income of family. And the world suffers from the inequality in different part of life and several degrees. Moreover the last writings gave some experiences from other places with different perspectives too. All those were only to spread this knowledge, in order to get benefits all together and exchange experiences which are efficient practically.

   This small study didn’t get a big impression and I saw that the majority of people in our world aren’t interested in those topics and issues, although it’s very important to have a glance about them, and think how the life is going in fact.  In next articles I hope that they’ll be more interesting and touch a different side too, because we always try to discuss the important matters in life for everyone.

One from systems of fighting the infringement on rights

    There are many different ways to insure some social rights for people in the economic side, and to make the equality more efficiency between them in distribution & redistribution of wealth in way that all people of nation feel by equality and justice. I don’t mean to distribute and give to anybody a certain amount of money “NO”, but according to specified rules and for people who really deserve we can guarantee a certain positive results after a while. We always need to discover the world and learn from experiences of different nations – useful experiences – to choose the best for applying them in life as models, today I want to talk about one mechanism in the same context (redistribution of wealth) and share you the information which i know about, it isn’t just a theory but it’s existing in fact.

    “AZ-ZAKAH” it’s the first organized system in history devoted to realise this purpose, it is not just a way to make charity, but it’s an obligation on rich people to give (to acquit) 0.4% (in every year) for the poor.  This system is defined by 3 verses are revealed on Mohammed: the 1^st imposes on the government to take this ratio through an administrative organization (it looks like taxes in first time). In this fact; the rich people believe absolutely that they apply their faith well when undertaking that (dogmatic obligation), and that’s useful for their moral, for their psyches, their feeling and mood as well. Because they obey a religious order and they know properly where their money will go in the end.

    The 2^nd verse assigns precisely the kind of people in society who deserve really a proportion of this wealth (they’re mentioned in 8 different kinds from people). The 3^rd verse show us a moral (ethical) value between people that they don’t ask anyone for money in order to satisfy their needs, and they should be satisfied by the disposable resources the most possible of time.

    The purpose from this system is to guarantee social and economic rights respecting the various segments of society. Furthermore; the people who get this income -in respectful way- they don’t feel anything bad like deprivation or shortcoming. All this harmony inside the society is coming from the interference of faith in the conduct of state. Because of the ethical values derived from belief and everyone can feel the worth of his existence with no marginalization, then a lot of social diseases will disappear from the social life because of the satisfaction feeling (we find a social equilibration). This is not everything; other procedures also are applied in order to organizing more and cover every form of instability (like: preventing the usury and resisting against the monopoly, and decreasing the inflation).

    Of course we can’t please all people 100%, but you can teach them how to be pleasant and satisfied in their lives and this mechanism can play an important role instead of actual tax measures and it results will be more practical and efficacy than now. In the ruling of Omar ibn Abdul-Aziz; the nation reached a perfect application for these rules into society on a very big area in that age, but sadly these amazing solutions aren’t applied in their home countries today because all legislations and laws are inherited from the colonial institutions of the 20th century.

    I’m sure that there are many creative solutions in our world, to save resources, time, and more positive effects, besides to avoid complexities, and only we don’t know or never heard about them until now, but they deserve to consider them, get lessons and look toward the best world.

The path to reach the happiness (part 3/3)

   If you’re healthy person now, so you’re better than millions who can continue their lives because of sickness, if you’ve a house and your food in it, you’re better than many nations in the world who can’t get that for one day. If you’re safe, and you’ve not a war, you’re not living in mountains and forests because of battles, tortured or in jails, so you’re better than the half of the people in the world, let us gather these advantages together, and see how much you’re better than many many many of people.

   Remember that when you lose some things in your life and you can’t get them or had something then you lost it, for some reasons, remind always the axis of your life and your general social position, if someone lives forever in a castle and he doesn’t eat anything except the sweets and honey, this person won’t taste this honey, and he won’t feel how much is sweet this honey is he didn’t taste before the bitterness, like that you’ll have a reference to distinguish between the two different senses of taste. It’s the same in life, when you don’t feel the hardness of your efforts; you can’t taste the happiness after that. The sweetness is coming by the tiredness in doing something and working to realize your goals. We can understand the importance of a lot of things when we compare them with the worst cases.

                              The happiness comes through the giving, not taking.

   Search on the happiness By giving : you can’t find a diversity in opinions between philosophers and they agreed that the highest level of happiness comes through giving to others, and not through getting, (Maybe you give a money, maybe a science, maybe a help or advise, …etc) but you’ll feel happy after. And I give an example here, the writers work hard and for late times at nights to revise, write, correct and write again, only to get the final product, it’s very hard working really, it’s big tiredness, but in time where these writers receive the first copy of this book, they forget all pains or white nights, and all the previous tiredness disappears suddenly, they feel so happy in this moment because they succeed to give something for others, although the hardness of the road. Don’t insult everything you can give it, big or small, even a smile! (I talked in previous article about it “who are the best people”). It’ll reflect on you positively, so try to reach your happiness by giving and not always by talking only. Try a different way and preview your feelings after that regardless to the kind of this giving. You’ll be happy when you really enjoy what you’re doing.

   I resume now the matter from these articles and what I wanted to say: It isn’t logic to make your happiness depending on something you don’t have them yet. You should accept your circumstances and because it’s necessary to pass this way (this situation); don’t feel blue and don’t see everything dark, it’s a temporary storm in life you should enjoy it by the available advantages existing, always remember the positive side.

   Just one more thing; try to give a little from your time for others, offer the help if you can that and don’t wait the thank because your good feeling –after that- is your thank for yourself.

    I got this meaning from a poem, and I want to share it with you here:
“The happiness is coming from you, it doesn’t come from far, it’s coming from your mind, from your heart, and it doesn’t come by money,  so be happy by yourself (through your thoughts), and make your happiness by your convictions, or let the matter of happiness for the happy people.”

*This article (third part) is based on a lecture I watched it since 4 or 5 years ago, was talking about the happiness.

The path to reach the happiness (part 2/3)

    I said in the last time about the happiness, and I mentioned that it’s a decision we should do it, and the happiness we make it, and it doesn’t come in coincidences often.

   I heard one scientist talking in a lecture, and he talked about a long study which it made of many specialists to find the reasons of distinguishing and saying: if he’s a smart person or no, then he concluded this word:  “ the cleverness is the adaptation”. How can you adapt with your conditions and your environment in every time and in everywhere you’re.

   Many people got the sadness (the opposite of happiness) because they look at the problem (when there is) they focus on it and forget immediately all the positive things in the life (before getting this hard problem, or before failing to get something you wanted it).  I give a saying here: “one bird between your hands is better than 10 on the tree”, which means: don’t make your happiness relies on something you don’t have them yet, because maybe you won’t get anyone of them. it’s like living in dreams and I said before that it’s wrong in the life to live in imagination (previous article).

  That appears when you want to get something and you’ve a strong eagerness to realize it, but sometimes you can’t do, maybe it isn’t your true way, and your destiny is in other road (I talked in previous article about it). So your happiness should be relied on something you’ve them, not rely on something you wish to have them yet (live your moment !).

  The money was the important reason to make people sad and still until now (for people who haven’t it of course, they feel sad), in contrast; the rich people don’t have an absolute happiness, and maybe less, sometimes they’ve sadness more than the poor. Everyone who gets the livelihood without any effort until his month do you think he is happy? The problem is when you only see to the top and I can make difference between see (look at) / look for. When you look for, it means you’ve a target, and a plan to reach your destination, but when you only see (look at) you’ll got only the bad feelings (the sadness because you haven’t what other people have) when you compare yourself with someone is so far from you, you’ll have this bad feeling. Look at the top only when you think about developing your skills, your career in order to make models for yourself to get progress and development. We need to satisfy by our actual resources and conditions in life and just compare yourself with people near from your position now (if you want to achieve goals), we don’t stop improving to better because we’ve a plan for that, but enjoy your moments now by the available means between your hands, and why not if you can have better after a while. (Live your moment ! with good feeling).

   you’ll look below if you visit the orphan homes, or you go to the hospital, you’ll see the handicapped people there, diseases and illness for young, old, kids, …etc, you’ll understand the graces which you’ve now, you’ll see how much you’re lucky to be healthy, and you can measure this example on many parts in your life (work, personal life, your relationships, ..etc). You can feel happy because you look at people are less than your position now, therefore you feel happy that you’ve many things they haven’t them, you’ll see the several graces on you in the life. You still the same person, but you look differently now, right !!! There you can obtain a different feeling, it’s - of course - positive to make you happy.

   These are the 3 ways to compare yourself with others. And the modality is: when you just look at the people who have a social situation better than you, you got bad feelings from it, whatever when you look at the people with bad situations in their social life, you’ll see how many graces you’ve and of course you get good feelings from the meditation in your graces. And from all that we can deduce that the happiness is a trip and it isn’t a station. If you understand that, you’ll find the happiness in the road constantly when you’ve a purpose you feel of course happy regardless to your tiredness to obtain it. (Live your moment !  to have the good mood and positive power for living the next one).

   Be satisfied on your fate! (The last fate which you can't change it), you'll be the richest. I support the thought which says: the happiness is a decision we have to make it in the life, in the next article I’ll talk about another way to find your happiness.

the path to reach the happiness (part 1/3)

   7.3 billions of people in the world, you can’t find anybody among them who doesn’t want to be happy, all they want and have this purpose, so what can prevent us to be happy people? And why we can’t reach that every day?

   Nobody is excepted from bad conditions, and we all try to overcome them somehow, sometimes we succeed and some others not really.  And as we said already it’s an experience we learned it for the next days, but the hardest situation (in the life) is: when someone feels himself (herself) alone in the hard times. When no one can you rely on him (her).  If you’ve such as this situation I can understand what it means exactly, the people feel themselves with no value in the life in those time.

   One philosopher said: if the person is really: (the son of his parents, and of his environment, the son of his city , of his nation, …etc, if those are all true; so he’s absolutely the son of himself. Which means: your life is made of your thoughts and the result of your decisions, and everything concern you in this life is coming from your decisions. From this idea and the image below we’ll start our discussion.

Look at this picture, and let me see what your mind can tell you :

   In the picture you can see a cup of water (a known example in the world and I used to use it), and it’s (a half full / half empty), what's your choice? left or right ? Usually when someone is depressed, upset or disappointed ….etc, he uses the empty part and express like this : “I can see a cup of water, it’s half empty and it needs many to be filled“, when the person who has a good mood,  and optimistic emotions actually, the answer will be : “I can see a cup of water filled until the half, it’s not absolutely filled but I can see the water inside it.”

   It's depending to our views, and how we react with the environment around us, you’re surrounded with many conditions and your view isn’t the same if we change your mood or if we tell you bad news, it isn’t the same if you hear good news in the same position and event. I’ll tell you what’s better the first answer is “false”, so to tell the ½ filled is better than say ½ empty, which means:

   There are many things good, many advantages, many solutions, just you don't see them, and only see the empty part. You see the sadness, the negative part, the bad scenarios, ..etc. when you change the way which you see yourself, you find a lot of secrets inside you. This cup is a symbolic image for your satisfaction on yourself, and nobody has a full cup until the death of course.

  Maybe you agree with me now here in this point, and if you’ve a hard time in these days you say : “i wasn't always like this before. i don't know what came over me. usually i was strong. i wouldn't never give up but not on the contrary. “ so what happens recently ? what ‘s run with you in this time?

   Listen to me ! The life is like an exam. the obstacles aren’t to preventing us going ahead, but they are tests to make us stronger, and be ready for the next exams in the life, when you overcome something huge, you'll be stronger of course, and when you think “this test is bigger than your powers” (just it looks like that), but in fact it isn't, the difference is: if you give up from trying or not yet. And the saying says: “you don’t fail until you quit” (we talked about that previously).

   You mustn’t make your happiness relies on some wrong convictions you’ve them, and if you look differently to the matter, I mean to don’t rely your happiness on some reasons only because you think that they’ll be useful for your life, because many things look very important but in fact we’ll have a life better without them, and the inverse is correct too, now I want you ask your depths to get a clear answer,  can you look at yourself positively and discover your actual advantages, explore your abilities and all what you can do to pass this moment? Can you ? That let you see differently the life in front of you, and your acts will be surely different when you’ve the optimistic mood. The decreased self-confidence is one of reasons of the sadness. Have a sit please ! and look at yourself what you want exactly, want you to be happy ? (No one will answer “NO” of course), so what do you need more now, just decide to be happy, you shouldn’t wait to have that by luck, you need to decide how to be happy.

   It’s a truth what I’ll say now: Everyone has one advantage (at least) can make him someone special “featured person” in it. You must search about it, to shove your way toward the future.
  If you agree with me, be optimist, please ! Through trusting yourself, and believe that you can overcome all that, motivate yourself and try to increase your self-confidence, don't look at the near results, but the truth is in the end of road. And in the next article I’ll talk about some ways to find (recover) your happiness and continue your life ahead.