Don't refrain yourself from telling good words!

   The life requires being in touch with people because of plenty of reasons in order to deal then to obtain the desires and interests.

    Nobody denies that the pressures (which come through life’s events and problems) they tire the person and break his will to doing something important as we said before. So it’s an ordinary fact that everyone can have in his life.

    In many times these situations are hard to overcoming them alone and maybe the solution -to handle them- comes from a separated person to the matter as the talking (with someone truthful and trustworthy who can understand you very well as he can understand that matter) is very helpful psychologically in way to resolve your problems, also the listening is useful too.

    If you already met that or someone whom you know in this case (your friend, sibling, colleagues, or just you met him in bus one day) and you heard from him that what’ we mentioned above, it means that this person has a need for help, and hoping to find something with you, else he couldn’t tell you explicitly, if you’re in this case and you can say something useful, so don’t hesitate to tell it (in order to add  a positive value of course), don’t hold back the good words from going outside of your heart! Even if you weren’t asked directly to tell; that you’re able; so release your tongue to bring a positive addition, and to be like a brightening source for your listeners. That because you don’t have the same stress and pressures, so you can bring a different view to the matter and telling your opinion in its positive sense. In the end it’s an opinion but it can be an important part of solution.

    You’re able to tell something useful about the matter that you heard, tell it when you’re permitted to tell! The time goes on, and maybe you forget after a while what you already said, whereas that person will live those words in his reality “like a medicine” where they affected positively on him and on his life generally forever. So that concerned person can recover the hope from your good words, you may be raising his morale, help to change a conviction to the better, all those results can come just through your wise word when you said it.

    You aren’t waiting for any recompense neither thanking, after that try to helping (because maybe you just met once and only one in your life) just do it for nothing in return as a service to someone even when you don’t know him. But when you grant this favour it’ll bring the happiness to your heart that you did something valuable really, one day you’ll meet also who tells you a good word and helps you. Don’t stop telling helpful words when you can that. Just keep yourself saying good words for people whom you know or you meet always in everywhere you’re whatever the situation, that’s better than keeping the silence and being neutral.

    In fact; don’t refrain yourself from telling good words necessary for the situation when you think  it’s the suitable time for it, that favour can be so instrumental for the second person when you do it, in our life it can be also wider than to be limited in words, maybe a mental or a physical effort, every favour (small or big) it’s a great service.

Some details about Ez-zakah mechanism

    I talked in the previous article about one important mechanism “EZ-ZAKAH” and I displayed generally how this system can affect on people’s life, like the social benefits on people, and the big results of equality in incomes even we don’t reach 100% but we can obtain better than we're in now. This system was used in past and its effectiveness has proven. But I didn’t mention how the mechanism is applied and how is the way exactly to apply that?

    To make it more obvious for people who read before, I’ll review some details:

    In first place; It isn’t easy to make rich people dispense of some of their money annually, and that calls in minds that the matter is depending on kind of attitude (conduct / manners), which work in starting from the human belief of whether charity and obligation to do. The feeling of guiltiness “in this way” is greater than when it comes “in policies’ way”. I mean the religious aspect in the human character, people can deceive rules but they can’t deceive themselves when there is a true belief inside, it’s necessary so to complete the integrity and sincerity of human being, and i talked before that we can't make a strict rules of all (social, economic and cultural sides) of society’s life without interference of manners and religions too.

    Secondly, i didn't mention the people who really deserve this money, besides to say they're 8 kinds of people, besides the strict procedures are detailed in this mechanism to function correctly and efficiently. And these people who deserve to get this amount of money, they're also needed to have some qualities (ethic), so like the first one accepts to give his money, the second also must have some characteristics. And that brings the mutual confidence and trust between all people in the same society, especially when they see the positive effects of their money appearing in the fact.

    Thirdly, I can notice some kinds who deserve to get that money, and give examples for that. The poor people (in 2 parts: who haven't the food even for one day, and who can't provide to themselves everything necessary to live (basic for life)). It’s a right for those in bondage and those in debt. For the wayfarer people who travel in everywhere for study or seeking livelihood. The people who employed to administer and gather that big money from rich people in all provinces, also they have a portion, like charitable projects,....etc and other kinds as well. The students (in different ages) also get their finance from this money. And every kind - among these 8 kinds - has a defined portion, precisely.

     It’s true that the world has a huge diversity between people, and that appears also in their experiences, and they’re amazing and successful experiences which are able to change our world is we apply them, a lot of experiences are in different nations and accumulated for several years to be fruitful. If we learn from each other and share the valuable knowledge (wherever it is), we can get many benefits and have better life in all sides mentioned above.

The path to reach the happiness (part 3/3)

   If you’re healthy person now, so you’re better than millions who can continue their lives because of sickness, if you’ve a house and your food in it, you’re better than many nations in the world who can’t get that for one day. If you’re safe, and you’ve not a war, you’re not living in mountains and forests because of battles, tortured or in jails, so you’re better than the half of the people in the world, let us gather these advantages together, and see how much you’re better than many many many of people.

   Remember that when you lose some things in your life and you can’t get them or had something then you lost it, for some reasons, remind always the axis of your life and your general social position, if someone lives forever in a castle and he doesn’t eat anything except the sweets and honey, this person won’t taste this honey, and he won’t feel how much is sweet this honey is he didn’t taste before the bitterness, like that you’ll have a reference to distinguish between the two different senses of taste. It’s the same in life, when you don’t feel the hardness of your efforts; you can’t taste the happiness after that. The sweetness is coming by the tiredness in doing something and working to realize your goals. We can understand the importance of a lot of things when we compare them with the worst cases.

                              The happiness comes through the giving, not taking.

   Search on the happiness By giving : you can’t find a diversity in opinions between philosophers and they agreed that the highest level of happiness comes through giving to others, and not through getting, (Maybe you give a money, maybe a science, maybe a help or advise, …etc) but you’ll feel happy after. And I give an example here, the writers work hard and for late times at nights to revise, write, correct and write again, only to get the final product, it’s very hard working really, it’s big tiredness, but in time where these writers receive the first copy of this book, they forget all pains or white nights, and all the previous tiredness disappears suddenly, they feel so happy in this moment because they succeed to give something for others, although the hardness of the road. Don’t insult everything you can give it, big or small, even a smile! (I talked in previous article about it “who are the best people”). It’ll reflect on you positively, so try to reach your happiness by giving and not always by talking only. Try a different way and preview your feelings after that regardless to the kind of this giving. You’ll be happy when you really enjoy what you’re doing.

   I resume now the matter from these articles and what I wanted to say: It isn’t logic to make your happiness depending on something you don’t have them yet. You should accept your circumstances and because it’s necessary to pass this way (this situation); don’t feel blue and don’t see everything dark, it’s a temporary storm in life you should enjoy it by the available advantages existing, always remember the positive side.

   Just one more thing; try to give a little from your time for others, offer the help if you can that and don’t wait the thank because your good feeling –after that- is your thank for yourself.

    I got this meaning from a poem, and I want to share it with you here:
“The happiness is coming from you, it doesn’t come from far, it’s coming from your mind, from your heart, and it doesn’t come by money,  so be happy by yourself (through your thoughts), and make your happiness by your convictions, or let the matter of happiness for the happy people.”

*This article (third part) is based on a lecture I watched it since 4 or 5 years ago, was talking about the happiness.

The path to reach the happiness (part 2/3)

    I said in the last time about the happiness, and I mentioned that it’s a decision we should do it, and the happiness we make it, and it doesn’t come in coincidences often.

   I heard one scientist talking in a lecture, and he talked about a long study which it made of many specialists to find the reasons of distinguishing and saying: if he’s a smart person or no, then he concluded this word:  “ the cleverness is the adaptation”. How can you adapt with your conditions and your environment in every time and in everywhere you’re.

   Many people got the sadness (the opposite of happiness) because they look at the problem (when there is) they focus on it and forget immediately all the positive things in the life (before getting this hard problem, or before failing to get something you wanted it).  I give a saying here: “one bird between your hands is better than 10 on the tree”, which means: don’t make your happiness relies on something you don’t have them yet, because maybe you won’t get anyone of them. it’s like living in dreams and I said before that it’s wrong in the life to live in imagination (previous article).

  That appears when you want to get something and you’ve a strong eagerness to realize it, but sometimes you can’t do, maybe it isn’t your true way, and your destiny is in other road (I talked in previous article about it). So your happiness should be relied on something you’ve them, not rely on something you wish to have them yet (live your moment !).

  The money was the important reason to make people sad and still until now (for people who haven’t it of course, they feel sad), in contrast; the rich people don’t have an absolute happiness, and maybe less, sometimes they’ve sadness more than the poor. Everyone who gets the livelihood without any effort until his month do you think he is happy? The problem is when you only see to the top and I can make difference between see (look at) / look for. When you look for, it means you’ve a target, and a plan to reach your destination, but when you only see (look at) you’ll got only the bad feelings (the sadness because you haven’t what other people have) when you compare yourself with someone is so far from you, you’ll have this bad feeling. Look at the top only when you think about developing your skills, your career in order to make models for yourself to get progress and development. We need to satisfy by our actual resources and conditions in life and just compare yourself with people near from your position now (if you want to achieve goals), we don’t stop improving to better because we’ve a plan for that, but enjoy your moments now by the available means between your hands, and why not if you can have better after a while. (Live your moment ! with good feeling).

   you’ll look below if you visit the orphan homes, or you go to the hospital, you’ll see the handicapped people there, diseases and illness for young, old, kids, …etc, you’ll understand the graces which you’ve now, you’ll see how much you’re lucky to be healthy, and you can measure this example on many parts in your life (work, personal life, your relationships, ..etc). You can feel happy because you look at people are less than your position now, therefore you feel happy that you’ve many things they haven’t them, you’ll see the several graces on you in the life. You still the same person, but you look differently now, right !!! There you can obtain a different feeling, it’s - of course - positive to make you happy.

   These are the 3 ways to compare yourself with others. And the modality is: when you just look at the people who have a social situation better than you, you got bad feelings from it, whatever when you look at the people with bad situations in their social life, you’ll see how many graces you’ve and of course you get good feelings from the meditation in your graces. And from all that we can deduce that the happiness is a trip and it isn’t a station. If you understand that, you’ll find the happiness in the road constantly when you’ve a purpose you feel of course happy regardless to your tiredness to obtain it. (Live your moment !  to have the good mood and positive power for living the next one).

   Be satisfied on your fate! (The last fate which you can't change it), you'll be the richest. I support the thought which says: the happiness is a decision we have to make it in the life, in the next article I’ll talk about another way to find your happiness.

Who are the best people in the world?

   People work to make valuable career and achieve many different achievements in their lives, we’re always looking for the best situation of life and nobody disagree with this way.

   We all need help to realize something important in the life, regardless to the percentage of this help is big or small.

   The nice people are: who have good qualities and nice ethics, these people are very welcome from the society, and they're very respectful also, because the society appreciates so much in its depths that.

   I read sometimes in news (in newspapers or international magazines), about people who founded the organizations for charity, to give foods for hungry people, to provide the pure water or the basic services for health, to contribute in the education’s operations, and …… a lot of them.

   They don’t look for the fame because already they’re. But I can interpret that in some words: “these people know very well how to live their lives”, they find way among the ways of happiness in life, and they understand how they can make their lives so interesting life.

  The morality - which I mean here today - is about ourselves: me, you, and everybody reads now with me:

   How much do you see yourself important and useful in this life? How can you evaluate your contribution in your society? In your town; at least in your road between home and work? You greet your neighbours, you stand in the bus to let the older people to sit,..etc. these are the true meanings of the helpful person in the society.

   We all have many advantages, many sources of livelihood; they differ from a person to another, you’ve the respectful job, and good educational level, the well-off and pleasant life, good conditions in your lifestyle. But if I’ve the right to ask you something: when it was the last time where you helped somebody in his (her) personal life? Or where you gave (someone in need in the street) a little from your money? When ( it was the last time) where you visited your friend who needs you really?

   Sometimes I think; if we gather all our money (and our welfares) which we've in the life in one side, and all people in the second side. I see that these graces can be available for everyone and enough to guarantee a respectful life to everybody too. But this is only a theoretical thinking.

    We can’t change the world; but we can change our worlds, and we can control our lives. And when everybody do that; we’ll feel the difference in the conditions of society. You can see the difference even if it’s small, and they look so simple behaviours really. That it brings the happiness to you and that will be the first step to make the changing - it’s to start by ourselves -.

   “The best people are the most useful to others; the most helpful; the best people are who can provide valuable means to help people around them, even by their words, or their smiles only”. You can measure yourself according to these criteria. Because the life has no meaning without sharing the good things with others.

   One thing more I remember now; your achievements inside the family, if you try to be useful person out home, you must do more in home to be serviceable person to the family, to be the best of the best people. You don’t forget one of these two sides - home and outside -, but you can always balance between them. 

And remember : the best people are the most helpful people.