The importance of the belief (part 02)

    In fact, everybody has his own religion, I mean even if it’s not from the structured ones, so s/he’s following his desires and freaks, his interests, lusts ….etc, and once I read about someone who said: “the music is my religion”.

    I think that religion leaves different imprints in every heart of believer. Our faith is subjective... we all feel God in different ways and understand His words in different ways. But fundamental principles are the same when the hearts are pure and intentions are innocent and clear.

    That refers to one thought: the religions are coming all from one source who is the god, and if there were more than one god, then we'll find huge differences in the essences between. Otherwise each god will leave away from others with his own rules, his creations, and his creatures, and then his own world.

    How person can realize the importance by religion in our lives? I think God shows that only. God opens eyes and hearts for the truth:

     Every person has to discover an importance of religion by himself ... faith is very personal and intimate thing. Whatever I talk about importance about religion and its advantages for hours but if in the same time his heart is not opened to God and his mind is not capable to understand information, I can say my talk is useless.

    "Our minds are created enough to realizing that we're in need to religion because the imperfect nature of the human’s perception. Therefore the god's wisdom and his absolute care about mankind brought the need to cover the shortage into minds by instructions from the above from the god, and then to guarantor the safety from every evils (Instructions that we can ingest them practically). Therefore we can't judge something (and i mean by something: the religion here) over our minds' power & ability, and then we say that we don't need it at all in the life, only because we didn't realize in fact its importance yet (the importance of that thing). If i don't feel cold, don't mean it's warm around, right and if i don't know something and its value. It never means that it's doesn't existing nor valueless."

     We can have hundreds of ways to realize this truth –truth of being in need to faith-, but to be convinced we take a certain time to think deeply about. The opening of heart of someone is by the god's will, but if we just say that, so we're telling in somehow that "the god is unjust" and that's wrong thought an wrong saying in his almighty right. So we'll add the following: of course the god commands in people's hearts, and nothing can happen without his will, but what makes the difference between people to be lighted by the god's guidance or not? If the person hasn't any good indicator for kindness or he's fanatic to his thoughts whatever the portion of these thoughts' truth; so surely this person won't be lighted and he will be prevented from the god's mercy where he's not merciful with his around from first.

     We can’t measure that with someone’s properties, or the luck –apparently- in the people’s life, the true essence appears mostly in crises that face the person. If you want get the god’s mercy, you must be merciful to people, and to want the god’s help, then be helpful for people too, and so on.

Is the asking of advice making us look weaker?

    In the same context of the previous articles; when we said that the human life is a part from social life, and it can’t continue normally separately alone. when you think that your existence is a part from social existence; you’ll deal and interact with people more and many great values appear and strengthen. So you communicate, discuss different matters, help and asking help too. That’s the way that people develop in their minds, find out different cultures and knowledge, and get always new perspectives.

    Every one passes by bad circumstances, and some hard times come across his life’s irregular moments, in those times; the problems weaken the person who undergoes them in somehow. Sometimes the situation leads to the matter that we already talked about in last two articles “the loneliness”, and this choice isn’t pleasant neither likable.

    But some others; they prefer to overcome these cruel times in way to face them instead the isolation. So they look for an exit or outlet to exceed the circumstance that they have currently. They think about a way to handle it, regardless if it’s a moral problem or depending to some life’s responsibilities.

    The smartest people are who share this situation with others to contributing in the way to resolve the problem, two minds are thinking together it's better than one only, and when three minds are thinking it's the best. And the luckiest people too are who find the suitable person to share with. You’ll add more experiences to yourself although you didn’t experiment them or test them at all. And that protect you to be mistaken in your next step and what you should do among a lot of choices. Through the advice you can get rid of your fogginess and you won’t be confused anymore.

    Whatever; we all know that your brain can do the necessary and it’s enough, but we are talking for the better option, for example, when you ask about an opinion, they think in free and they look to the matter from different perspective than yours. In contrast; with concerned person can’t do it normally in many times because of pressures of short time or having a bad mood, no energies for doing, …etc, don’t allow a quiet reflection.

    If you didn’t find with whom you share and ask advices to make a clear view about your actuality to pursue the life, work.., it doesn’t mean that it’s bad choice to let others contribute in solution of your problems, they are just suggestions when you listen well and in the end it’s your decision to choose what to do next. Probably you didn’t meet yet such as cruel circumstance for this reason or that, and it’s not weakness when you ask advice from the true person whereas it’s just an advisory option in order to light your mind by a different though, economizing your energies in road, and shortening time toward the solution and getting your target easier.

    We’ve a saying that says: “the fruits of experiences are the good choice”, and the asking of advice - when it’s necessary - sometimes; enters within this point. To get benefits from the fruits of gardens besides of yours.

Lending money by rates or simply the usury (part 02) : a different perspective

   When many economist admit the practical working of usury in monetary system now, and they justify that implementation by reason of the missed opportunities, today; many others are bearing the idea of cancelling the usury from all commercial contracts and lending policies, including practical Christians and Muslims who consider that as a violation of God’s legislation, in case of the big gap between the rich people who become richer, and the poor who became poorer too with time when many people can’t pay their interests regardless to the origin debt and its services which denotes a new crisis in the road. And the authorities prefer to escape forward in hoping to get results, but they don’t know how much they waste from time and from other hidden and fruitful experiences until now, or maybe deliberately isolated, but they agree also that these economic benefits of usury, “make enormous problem from ethical and philosophical aspects”.

    The Islamic banks provide several ways to invest in money avoiding the usury transactions, the first experiences in this way were unilateral tries since the forties of last century until seventies in Dubai. Then these experiences are expended in many countries when the UK integrated these transactions as a part among their financial systems to collecting more and bringing an important amount quantity from Muslim community in there.

    There are 7 or 8 faces of financial products in Islamic banking, and I’ll mention here the most important of them like:  “al-murabah” (win-win) or “al-musharakah” (contribution in the capital, and whether in benefit or losses), direct or indirect investments. Besides; some other procedures and mechanisms (which we can explain all of them in one article or two) to insure the legal transactions between people, organizations or banks.

    From their benefits on global economy, these rules decrease the inflation rates, because the money is used just in legal investments, and not to make a large expenditure without production increases the volume of cash without exchanging for foods or services. And we get a monetary inflation in fact. The Islamic perspective is based on the principle of lending money without zero interests but with a deadline of course. But in case of “procrastination” and delay in payment of debts, what should we do if someone exceeds that deadline?

Regardless to the sinfulness toward the god (the reason which push the majority of people to rushing in payment); the logical sanctions are the imprisonment, inhibition him from the licit advantages for whole people, prevention from the financial facilities in his transactions and the reputation of - person/organization/company- in business generally.

    And from practical solutions we can cite: the collaboration between banks and financial institutions against those who delayed intentionally to pay off their debts to adding them into the blacklist.  Or like it is going now by holding on some of his properties to the bank or the entering of bank by a certain portion with the debtor in his realties.

Other victims in the societies (part 02)

   Another face to the same situation: (the details of laws in several articles in order to organize well the relationships, the labour market, families, upbringing and care of children), this large quantity or different articles make the social life more difficult because of immobility in these laws. When these articles are detailed to provide more protection and care for different categories in society. But the fact is looking a little different, when these laws bring some risks on family ties and probably to destroy its relations because of no flexibility in the laws and all articles are written by some bare minds from any emotional senses or humanitarian aspects, it’s an abstract law and not enough to cover all society’s sides and circumstances.

   Sometimes I think that we can make robots to manage issues and to announce provisions, without any need to human in these judgments. To tell the truth; the human legislations can’t never cover all matters occur in the society; therefore we need always a proportion of moralities and interference of the human aspect to complete the shortage of the abstract laws.

   Honestly the world today creates many fears. I saw many families can’t live together because of illogical reasons because the law imposes on the family members to live separately when the parents can’t provide the suitable care for children, therefore the government takes them to orphanage, or the separation between couples from different nationalities in reason that they don’t demonstrate substantial evidences for their living together under the same roof. A lot of issues are so clear to make decisions about them, but the details in laws through some articles hamper to go directly to this decisions and the problem  expands more and more.

   It hurts me a lot when I see some families can’t live a normal life like every family, when the laws make the life difficult to some people because the missed link in the matter is the emotional part and our laws are empty from every sense of humanity. And for example, instead to help the low-incomes’ families by governmental programs, they demonstrate their no-ability and spend more expenditures on making solutions for these demonstrations.

What we should do in that situation now?

   I know that the laws are unjust sometimes for some people because they aren’t enough to treat certain issues. But when you can’t get what you want like I said the first example above; why do you think its failure? Maybe only because the results can't come quickly, they need a little time more to come, you should be patient in your steps, to don't give up, and this is an important factor to continue the life normally. And the livelihoods’ ways are available constantly to everyone, only the necessary conditions didn’t gathered yet together, soon that’ll be changed and that’ll be your chance. In other words; never lose your hope about circumstances better for you than you are now.

    I appreciate very much the associative activities from several associations to help these people to fulfilment their goals in life and realize what’s necessary for them to continue a normal life, also the local agencies which provide some services to integrate people in context of certified lifestyle with some innovative solutions to avoid many social problems and conflicts, these activities can allowing to governments to look back in previous steps and correct some rules to reform better the society and give certain rights for a normal life to a wide segment in society. 

Religion & State: There is no separation in reality (part 2)

    All details in our life today are accumulations of several experiments and it’s possible that they came only from the human mind “alone”, but it’s based on truths overriding this human and derived from a great power in the universe who brought this law (which it’s represented in religious legislation “coming from the god and not the part made of people under religious cover”).

    These rules are approved (agreed) with our instincts and the social heritage during many centuries, therefore they –the rules- organize better the life from spiritual aspect through all religions of humanity.

    In everywhere; airports, hotels, institutions …etc we find the toilets are separated why? Why we feel awful when we see bad behaviour, but we enjoy and feel pleasant about the good deeds? Why we’ve this impression. We sleep at night while we awake on day to strive and work. When people break the rule which organize well the nature of relationships between man and woman, our societies become more unstable. If we search more, we’ll see many great social values and decencies came from our pure religions and they still until now in our customs.

   How can we make this separation, and the religion is a part from the family relations and social life between people even the relationship between the sexes is controlled by the faith, especially if we talked about the celebrated religions (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam) and all these matters enter in the state governance.

   Can you see how much the faith influences on our thoughts, behaviours, our decisions and deals in unintentional way?

   Everyone asks himself about the reasons why he likes or dislikes this or that? All feelings, like hate, revenge, love, are controlled by his religion (I gather all mankind in the same side, even the agnostics and atheist are certainly human religions made of themselves *). I can make an easy question here does your faith hamper (prevent) you to decide something in your life? In other way; was your belief the cause to change an opinion about someone, then some people, or change your decisions in life? Nobody can answer me “NO” because we all do that in life, the most important question now is there any way to control it when the guidance is wrong on me? And there is a way to distinguish between the positive and negative effects of religion in your views and convictions?

*All habits and traditions which the human abides them is his religion, whether it was based on belief in god or not.

the dialogue, the best way of communication (to keeping your relationships)

    Nobody disagrees that the dialog is important in life between people, and through it we can make a platform for our relationships and understand each other, regardless to the type of these relations. But: some people prefer their impression to define the way of communication with others, and they interpret by their minds only instead to make debates and talking explicitly.

     I give you some examples: “my friends didn’t call me last 2 weeks and I think this friend is angry at me”, or “there’s something new, it happened but my friend didn’t tell me about it yet, and i heard from others. I think there is a problem when he (she) didn’t tell me immediately about it”.  Even now “I just THINK”, right !!! And I’m sure that you’ve that in your life, with friends, colleagues, at least it happened once. And many other examples are in people’s life. The problems appear when you let your thoughts go far and without any criteria you start to react from them, which are made of your fiction only, in many times so far from the fact. Your imagination brings you this reasoning and these conclusions to destabilize your relations with this person or that friend, and probably it’ll be broken in the end.

    It was nice to so do something better (before tiring your mind by empty thinking, and interpret something aren’t true), it’s better to talk directly with the concerned person in the matter, and shorten your way.

   I advise you (in your talking) to use the decency of dialogue, don’t rely on your thoughts at all, ask: “what happens?” in first, what’s the strange income in last days? The reasons which lead you to this situation. Then inquire about the details, make a positive dialogue, honest conversation, because when the other person clarifies the matter to you, certainly you’ll avoid a lot of conflicts in your mind, and with this person (friend or colleague,..).

   That it happens often between friends, and sometimes these thoughts let the relation in forested position, you shouldn’t forget that your goal to get a progress, not to establish the proof on this friend that he (she) is wrong. In order to strengthen the relation not to look like winner and lose people who are around you. Remember that always before doing any stupid reaction can make you regret.

   My friend, if you’ve anything about me, or any strange feeling about me; please I’ll be grateful if you tell me honestly about it, and we can talk about the matter and handle everything together, it’ s better than staying in doubts.

   Don’t let your thoughts fill the gaps in your mind to give answers, and these guesses decide in your place and define your treatment with people, there is always a way better to keep your relationships well, when you talk clearly and hear what the other side has in mind, you can understand the answer, after that you can judge and decide.

where is your opinion ..in your personal issues?

    The mankind is based on social life, and no one can continue a normal life lonely. Which means; it’s necessary to deal with people in everywhere. Some people thank you when you behave kindly with them, and they appreciate that (you’re wonderful, good person, kind …etc.), these are - of course - their opinions about you in this time. In contrast; we can see some misunderstood, or conflicts with relatives, friends, neighbours, or colleagues, even from teachers unfortunately, also we hear like that from teachers, and we hear some descriptions like (you’re so bad person, selfish, stupid, arrogant ...etc.) The descriptions which represent their temporary views about you also, right?

    The pretty thing is that we all hear the both of opinions in different degrees, and that proves that the human isn’t perfect to handle – rightly - everything in front of him; absolutely. But the bad thing is when these views be part of your fate and they bring to you many psychological pressures and mental problems, to be upset, or egoist, desperate, depressed, it can be worse when you lose the confidence in yourself. And you don’t feel yourself an ordinary person like others because of a small changing in your psychology. Then it’ll be difficult to deal with people and treat them even to achieve your goals.

  To overcome your fears from the future, to override these obstacles and realize something you desire in the life, it’s important to know some things:

-         As we said in the previous article; not all what you know is the absolute truth, and maybe a lot of matters which we believe in them, (these matters) they are only some opinions, and they couldn’t be true always. Even the matter how others see you on it

-         All what you hear (from others) about yourself, they’re just views also, depending to the angle which they see you, and they think about you. Even many opinions are similar sometimes, but they still only opinions and they form a part from the truth (because of the similarities in views of many people), and not all the truth.

-         The best way to treat them is to revise yourself and your steps, to look back to your thinking ways and your attitudes with people, in order to regulate these steps, and enhance toward the best. To think maybe you’re wrong in something to make people don’t understand your intentions.

-         The truth is fixed that they stay opinions, and they can change in different moment to the both: best or worse, and remember always that the opinions of people in you; don’t refer or express you necessarily. But the more important thing is your view and your opinion about yourself, after revising (all these data, opinions, conditions around you), revise these reasons together to make your clear view about yourself.

    Now it’s the your minute to think in your opinion about yourself, to do not insult your mind, and to trust more yourself in the next steps, because the life is continued.