The planning separates between the real and unreal goals.

   I mentioned in a previous article, and I made difference between goals and dreams, maybe you spend several years and nothing you achieve at all, then you regret about it, and maybe you ask yourself what’s the problem with me that I can’t do anything, whereas some other can do? So in fact we’re in one from two cases “relaxing dreams” or “realistic dreams”, what Today we’ll talk about, is one (among many) widespread methods to plan for your goals.

   Firstly; the goal must be written on papers, and if you tell me that you know your goal, and they’re in your mind, so that doesn’t work. There are many methods to plan for personal goals or for organizations, like SWOT, POSEE, PMSP…etc. And to knowing more about these, you can check all the different ways.

  Secondly; The goal mustn’t be general (when you say for example: I want to be rich, or I want to lose 20 kilos of my weight, ..etc), because this kind of goals mean you’ll waste more of time, mean more of costs, more of tiredness, the  results are negligible, but the goal must be very specific. Therefore the most the most widely way used in these cases is S.M.A.R.T.

  S: Specific: the goal must be very specific and defined, so instead to say “I want to succeed”, or “I want to improve myself” you must specify in what exactly you want to succeed/ improve yourself? And say:” I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills.”

  M:Measurable: you can measure your goal periodically in order to know where you are now? And that let you see the obstacles which hamper your progress and compare the remaining (percentage with time) it’s good to know your steps in road to achieve your aim and make the necessary modification. The known rule says: “IF YOU CAN NOT MEASURE IT, YOU CAN NOT MANAGE IT”. And our goal becomes: “I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills through reading 10 books and Attend 2 training courses (internship).”
  A: Attainable / Agreed: in this step, we find a difference between the planning for personal goal, and planning for the goals of organization respectively.  Take your time for this planning and ask yourself how can you realize your goal? your qualifications, your means, and the agreement between “leaders of organization” about the details of this goal. (*Organization can be an association, a company, or a ministry, …etc.)

  R: Realistic: simply this part means that the good goal must be “difficult” & “possible”, and here I advise you to avoid the goals which aren’t compatible with your actual powers, skills, and resources. We continue in the same goal: “I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills through reading 10 books and Attend 2 training courses.” It’s a logical goal and not unreal, right !!.

  T: Timed: the goal has to be limited by time, the deadline to achieving your goal, because the opportunities become less when you the time is missing in the plan, and it becomes an opened goal (without confines), it isn’t important when you will realize it and it’s only a wish. The most important is the time of the end to compare with it. The same example becomes: “I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills through reading 4 books and Attend 2 training courses during 6 months.” You see!! And this is the final form of the goal.

    So in brief: the goal must be: Specific & Measurable & Realistic & Timed. If your goals aren’t compatible with these conditions, so you need to think again and plan from the beginning. And that’s what the sciences said.

If you want to make more details in your goal, when you plan for the available means to attain this goal, you follow the same previous steps S.M.A.R.T, and don’t forget to make a written plan for your goals.

the true value isn’t the same like we see (part 2).

   I said in the previous article how we evaluate some matter by wrong ways, it’s easy when we deal with things in our lives but it’s a little sensible with people. As I said before; what seems easy, it’s not in the reality, if we meditate well, we’ll find it as the resultant for many previous works you did them separately. Which means you should appreciate that and make it valuable too although you think that you got it easily. That appears clearly when the matter concerns the way of dealing with the nature. We don’t appreciate it as the same what it deserves, we don’t care seriously about it, therefore we start lose a lot from its features. You can understand what I mean now, right ! So take the same example on different matter in your life.

   People are different in their characters from good to bad, from calm to the arrogant, surely you experimented these in your life and you met from all kinds. When the person is humble, kind, friendly, you feel comfort with this person and your relationship can develop to be better and stronger.

  You find the suitable climate to strengthen this relation because the other side allowed that, and you don’t see it so important for you really. The way was easy to have this person in your life therefore you don’t present a good treatment, he (she) doesn’t get a huge interest from your side, usually you don’t care a lot about that. In the same time when your knowledge to this person took your interest (according to this person’s position in life), you did some efforts to strengthen the relation and you tire yourself to broaden it (usually that happens mutually), for some reasons, maybe a business gathered you in one way together, or work, or any interesting project in this worldly life. The both of you are cautious in every step to keep the nature of relation and let it's going normally, and the both of you see its importance (perhaps because of reciprocal benefits) with time you can see the fake goodness of some people around you and the true of others.

   When you see a person who forgives your mistakes, tolerant with everything you do it, don’t think that because of weakness of this person’s personality, he (she) did that willingly although there are many other reactions possible, he (she) preferred this doing for certain reasons, and not because he (she) is absurd.

   In brief: you respect somebody when you consider them care a lot of about your being with them, because they seem (and you think that) precious people, however; you don’t care about your doing or your reactions against the person who looks like easy to get (in your mind of course). And that happens often between friends.

   In the end, maybe you can’t see their true value (of these people) even you made them impatient with you and they leave you forever, there you feel what you really lose in your life. It’s precious to have these people in your life. Usually we don’t see the importance of these people starting from the family members even we lose them.

  The true value of every person appears when this person shows you his (her) respect and care every time (it’s a grace when you get care from others and they like you, appreciate your opinions, your advices). Many people haven’t what you have; only you don’t appreciate that. If you don’t see it, you’ll regret later when you don’t find these nice people by your side (neither the bad people who look for their benefits, nothing else).

  If you don’t think seriously to keep this grace – these precious people around you-, you’ll lose them, right, and perhaps you won’t get the chance to find like that companionship in all the next years of life.

the true value isn’t the same like we see

   When we seek for obtain a lot of things in your life, of course (without any doubt) you won’t get all what you wish. But certain ones of them you’ll have them. We’ve abilities to realize them and we’ve means also which differ from a person to another.

(* Ability: the human power used to treat, to do, to analyse, and to react about something.)

(* Possibility: cover the available means and conditions around you in order to facilitate your steps on the road to do something.)

   I’m not talking today about the first side ( the mentally differences between people), we’ll discourse about the second side which concern basically the environment, and sometimes we meet difficulties where we test rightly these various powers and tools to realize these wishes in the fact.

   Usually; you do an enormous effort to get them, and this effort let you estimate how much us valuable this result. When the work was hard to do something, later; you estimate it as a precious thing for your life.

   In the other hand ; when you get something easily or without making any effort maybe other people helped you or bring it to you, you won’t make any care or value for this thing, because you can have it in anytime you want it ( it’s between your hands and he’s you who commands ).

   Remember now what’s the actual goal you work to achieve it, and how you think it’s important for you, maybe this goal is a good business deal, or graduating, investment or any project means a lot for you. What are the reasons make you think that they’re important? {Simply because you know that the precious things can’t come in easy}. Maybe it’s true and I agree with you but relatively only, let me tell you why.

   When you get something without effort surely you don’t make a big care about it, and you insult that because if you lose it you can hold it again (Like keys in your hand). So many things in your life look so precious in your opinion, but in fact they aren’t. You worked seriously to obtain them, in result to earn from it later, therefore you’re eager to obtain it and spend your time, your resources (waiting for the happy results).

    What I want to clarify here is: what we own in easy (maybe) or just it seems like that, and we don’t evaluate it. We don’t feel how much it’s necessary for the actual condition even we lose it. In that time we see how wrong we were before, and we were like foolish people because we didn’t evaluate rightly the matter. In that time the regret won’t be useful for you. It’s normal to be mistaken in case of when you can correct that later and maybe to possess the missed things again, but how can you do when he matter is a person? The next article will show the details of this aspect.

Be vigilant! , Don’t jump on the ladder to don’t fall down on the floor.

   When we’re young; we’ve many different wishes in the life, also the dreams are in the top degree because of many reasons, principally immaturity of these young sometimes, and in many other times the big hole between the theoretical thinking (wishes) and the life in fact. These young people get the first shocks when they are confronted with the reality outside home and university. It seems a little different to what you’d in mind “before”.

   Before this time you had less of responsibilities, less of obligations to do, but now you must work, activate, be a productive person, to have your own life and be responsible on everything depend to you.

   In the first time, this young thinks “maybe it’s a temporary event, a temporary crisis, and everything will be –soon- okay and like in the plan. But many times it isn’t true; it won’t be as you planned. And when you can’t continue in this way, You should be flexible with the matter and adopt a little with your environment.

   In these times; you should make a distinction between two things which you confused already between them, the ambition, and the dream. The first one means: something is difficult to get it, hard to achieve it, but it’s possible to do (with a certain time), the second means: it’s impossible to realize that in the reality because of many reasons they could be (the time, the environment, the abilities, the temporary life conditions, and maybe we can mix them too…)

   It’s an important idea for the next days, the next years and all your life, why important? To regulate the plan, to modify and adopt your direction, remove something, add others, classify priorities, ..etc, I don’t want to fix you here, or make you disappointed from that, the dreams are existing in the human life, they come in minds to let us keep the hope and don’t surrender, but your sitting between dreams and your imaginations is like a drug for your mind to live a virtual life. (Keeping in mind the previous separation between ambition and dream), because it doesn’t let you do anything in fact. You just decoy yourself when the time is going on.

“If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place”

  This idea (of regularization \ of self-organization) will be always with you, and every time you’ll have some breakpoints to apply that and adopt again your new direction. There are many ways to define the gaols so that you have them, -probably I will talk about that in the next articles -.

  It’s the wisdom to deviate a little far from your way, but you don’t leave your headlines which you already drew them. When you look back and see the traces of your steps, you can evaluate them only if you’re objective with yourself. So as not to break your heart or to block your mind, to not waste yourself and your life; think about efficient goals in your life to feel positively and can to do more; later, and make them (these goals) as intermediate step for your targets, and don’t jump from the first step toward the goal. You’ve to be patient and don’t hurry to get immediate results.

  Of course; you still keep your goals with you, and you’ll work until the end to realize your aims and to get those targets in the life, but maybe in different way (According to the environment around you).

  You’ll have some opportunities in the road, and also obstacles from the same nature -from time to time-. If you’re clever enough you’ll invest in these moments to cross many steps in your life, and achieve your regulated goals (according to actual conditions) in the end.

When the failed try means the luck and it can be successful.

People today want to learn more, work, study, learn always how to make plans from life, plan to develop their careers, to realize several purposes corresponding the interests in life, and the life imposes these differences between them, especially young people who like to achieve something because they’re so ambitious and it’s good when you realize important step, and (after that) you feel so happy because of it. It’s a motivation for you to do more and more in your life.

That’s the ordinary scenario and the general way of human life, but sometimes he winds don’t run where the boats wish to go, and you meet some obstacles in the road, you failed in your try to realize this important thing for your life. Many people disappointed from it, and it’s logical reaction because the wish didn’t become real yet. Sometimes worse, I mean when you get in mind to stop thinking definitively to doing that again.

That’s true but it should be temporary, which means: you can try again with different way and you’ll have surely different results in the end.

We’ve a saying tells: “every horse has a stumble, and every skilful had a lapse” there it’s normal if you meet such frustration when you tried to achieve something and tell me honestly: “how many cases like you in the world? And how many case like that happened with you and they made you stronger than before, wiser than before, lead you to learn many things in the road only because you experimented them through those tries”.

If you stop trying now, I can make sure that it’s impossible to do anything, because there is no effort (null inputs). A lot of people got a great success in the life (which they never imagine it), they got it in the second try after losing in the first. They got a big change in life, immense transitions in their subways from this domain to another, They found their new ways differently to the previous, they had (and have) different lives now; in this case the failed try was a gift for them to find the way, to achieve a valuable career(furthermore the experiences).

The main point is when you failed to do something rightly - according to your plan - and don’t realize your aim, it doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to do (at reverse) it’s just “a try” is failed for some certain existing reasons. Now you’ve an experience about the matter, new input will give you a new output (of course it’ll be different than the previous).

When someone in the world already succeed to do it - before you - so you can do it also now, you shouldn’t surrender, because the distinction is so clear between “the failed try” and “the impossibility”, this is the difference in your mind.

There is a possibility somehow to do and to get your targets, you mustn’t stop trying when you still alive. Your experiences bring to you the wisdom to treat your next days in the life with a good way.

the dialogue, the best way of communication (to keeping your relationships)

    Nobody disagrees that the dialog is important in life between people, and through it we can make a platform for our relationships and understand each other, regardless to the type of these relations. But: some people prefer their impression to define the way of communication with others, and they interpret by their minds only instead to make debates and talking explicitly.

     I give you some examples: “my friends didn’t call me last 2 weeks and I think this friend is angry at me”, or “there’s something new, it happened but my friend didn’t tell me about it yet, and i heard from others. I think there is a problem when he (she) didn’t tell me immediately about it”.  Even now “I just THINK”, right !!! And I’m sure that you’ve that in your life, with friends, colleagues, at least it happened once. And many other examples are in people’s life. The problems appear when you let your thoughts go far and without any criteria you start to react from them, which are made of your fiction only, in many times so far from the fact. Your imagination brings you this reasoning and these conclusions to destabilize your relations with this person or that friend, and probably it’ll be broken in the end.

    It was nice to so do something better (before tiring your mind by empty thinking, and interpret something aren’t true), it’s better to talk directly with the concerned person in the matter, and shorten your way.

   I advise you (in your talking) to use the decency of dialogue, don’t rely on your thoughts at all, ask: “what happens?” in first, what’s the strange income in last days? The reasons which lead you to this situation. Then inquire about the details, make a positive dialogue, honest conversation, because when the other person clarifies the matter to you, certainly you’ll avoid a lot of conflicts in your mind, and with this person (friend or colleague,..).

   That it happens often between friends, and sometimes these thoughts let the relation in forested position, you shouldn’t forget that your goal to get a progress, not to establish the proof on this friend that he (she) is wrong. In order to strengthen the relation not to look like winner and lose people who are around you. Remember that always before doing any stupid reaction can make you regret.

   My friend, if you’ve anything about me, or any strange feeling about me; please I’ll be grateful if you tell me honestly about it, and we can talk about the matter and handle everything together, it’ s better than staying in doubts.

   Don’t let your thoughts fill the gaps in your mind to give answers, and these guesses decide in your place and define your treatment with people, there is always a way better to keep your relationships well, when you talk clearly and hear what the other side has in mind, you can understand the answer, after that you can judge and decide.

our relashionships .. with family memebers (2)

    The family is considered the basic cell in the society and we can’t reach to stability of society if we don’t reform this important element. The contemporary lifestyles touched a lot the strength of family ties and affected on them, and many families stay only relied by the same name, and that’s only what gathers them in fact. Sadly these situations hurt many people in different degrees.

    When the parents were playing with their children for a long time, today the technology takes the mission from them. The lifestyles today with these new technologies and a lot of business, all that let people in family like machines, and they rarely meet themselves and sit in the same place. Therefore the care of family - almost - has no priority in the human life and the relations became weak more and more.

    I said in the previous article that some families are like enemies, and I repeat again now: if someone in in family turns back on you, you don’t do the same and turn your back on him (her, them) you should confront the bad treatment by the good treatment that it proves your high qualities. I confirm to you to think again and take a step to reform your relations. I don’t tell you it’s easy to do it, but it can be easier if you look from another aspect to the matter, and the pains disappear (or -at least- they’ll decrease) when we forgive less than when we keep a certain distance away from them.

   I wonder from one thing; when someone didn’t talk to his (her) brother (or sister, parents) for months or for few years maybe, so what’s the meaning of the brotherhood in your dictionary? Which meaning do you have for the words: brother, sister, parents, family; if you can’t forgive the mistakes of your brother, or sister, or any member in family? I tell you: you can’t define clearly them to me now if you’re in this situation, and you can't give a strict definition. Because these words have no sense and the meaning is empty from your side.

   if you want to satisfy yourself and give yourself some answers about your truth, I ask you to strengthen your relationships with family by “respecting the elderly members, visiting family members, checking on them, helping them, showing mercy to youngsters, offering support to all in times of joy and sorrow.”(Dr.Al-Nabulsi)

   All this good treatment brings you the happiness and expresses your real value in the life. That’s the way to give us finally reformed society (for our safety) by strengthening the family ties, because it’s the missed thing in the world and it’s the spirit of the civilization.

     In brief: I ask you to care more about these matters in your life with family, especially with parents of one of them. Because you won’t give them their rights on you whatever you do good for them.

Our relationships .. With our family members.

     The family; we can’t preferring anything else instead of them, they’re always in the first place and we feel more safety when we see them around. In some cases the relationship with one member among them or maybe more, - this relationship- suffers from some troubles, and unfortunately for years also it’s broken between the brothers and sisters.

     That’s our topic today, we’ll define the nature of these relationships, and moreover we’ll find a way to treat them in the goodness.

     I met many people and friends too who told me that they’ve problems in their families; they see that’s impossible to handle them, because the reactions were worse too. Problems with uncles and aunts, even with brothers and sisters “it’s so awful really.”

    We start with some questions: when it was the last time where you sit with your parents and you talked to them for while in different topics? Or may I ask about the last call between you and them?!!! Many people wished to have a sister and you can’t see how much you’re lucky to have this sister? Regardless if she’s sometimes stubborn, but she’s your sister; right? I think it’s a much luck and it’s very good feature to have her (or his). I heard about many people who wish to have a sister or brother, they wish to meet their parents once, but they can’t because the dead can’t return to life again.

    In family; you all like each other so much; you’ll have these conflicts sometimes and because of this strong reliance and love between you; you always return to each other and continue again like nothing happened before, because the love overcomes the anger and the forgiveness wins finally

    I expect this end for some reasons, if your brother or sister is “Soft-headed”, I don’t think that you’re also the same, else you’ll react badly too. If you’re still reading now so I guess you want to find a solution for this kind of situations.

    The life is so short, and remember always that you’ll regret the days where you’re far from the family, I don’t mean by “far” in the physical distance, but the distance between hearts. Even they behave wrong with you, you shouldn’t react wrong, or you confront them with their bad deeds, and you should correct that and keep this warm relation to continue more. They’re humans and they can do mistakes, else why I’m his brother (her sister) if I can’t forgive him (her)? That’s why we’re a family.

    We all need a second chance and be optimist to get great relationships, because the only “thing to correct the mistakes of others is: to do the right thing in return when you react. “The forgiveness (the tolerance) is the first step to reach the happiness.” Later I’ll talk more about the family ties, like a symbol of humanity and model of human life. We’ll be glad if you share us your opinions and comments.

The difference between information and truth … When we deceive our minds

     In the previous article about opinions; I talked about important matter, concerning the truth, and our information (the truth as we know it). And I mentioned that we know many wrong things, but we consider them like a truth. That happens for many different reasons.

    During the centuries of our humanity in this earth; the truth was a source of disturb and it made a lot of problems in the patterns of thinking for people.

   The physicist Galileo paid his life as a price for his scientific researches about the heliocentric. And many others too, only because they gave the truth where the people aren't so ready to get it, or they can’t understand it clearly because they don’t know all details about the matter. And when you don’t know about something if it exists or no, it doesn't mean necessarily that you know really the non-existence of it. So it’s possible that there is something but only you don’t know about it.

    This condition still always between people, just the difference is in the time, in the matter and its type, scientific, historic, politic, religious. ..etc. and  because it still always; that it means there are more details they don’t know them, else the people will change the opinion. I can give more examples here: in history we all know about the worse age which called idiomatically by “the dark ages”. In these ages the humanity was flopping in obscurities of ignorance, and conflicts about thrones and a lot of wars on this earth. Where the power and strength were the judge to resist and survive.

    This is main idea about these times in the history. But the truth which the world doesn’t know is : that in the same time of “dark ages” in Europe; they were the golden ages in the southern side of the world. The Muslim civilization was from Iberian Peninsula in the west (Spain now), to the Chinese-Indian confines (in the east). The north of Africa – for example – received a lot of scientific missions of students, to study in their institutions in different domains, and also the same in Damascus, Cairo in east.

    In the same ages; this civilization brought to the humanity many and many of inventions and facilities for life, lifestyles, in medicine, agriculture, mathematics, physics, chemistry, architecture arts, and human sciences, even in transportation ways (the first researches and tries of flying were in these ages before the wright brothers).

    In the same ages the mathematicians were thinking deeply and hard to find a solution for the calculating system, and they succeed to invent “the zero”, that brought a lot of solutions in the world, also the first true geographic map of the world, …. and hundreds of examples too.

    I read many different articles in newspapers and magazines, these articles are of professors and people are very cultivated and analysts too. But in my reading; I don’t agree with all their opinions and their thoughts, and I tell myself “ yes i agree with you in this idea, but I’ve another view”, then I read more and “ no I don’t agree with you here, I don’t see the same as you see exactly,..”…etc. So before getting any information and believe it; I put my filter on my mind and I start to analyse it too. Then I’ll decide if it’s certain like 1+1=2, or I need more details about that before decision.

    Before writing these words; I watched a scientific documentary confirms that the truth isn’t always the same as we know it or as we think it. Because – sometimes – we can deceive the minds with tricks and let the minds to believe this deception, because of the details aren’t all clear for all. And another angle can give us other information, right?

    Don’t believe all what you see or what you hear, you need always more details to separate between the information and the truth.

Who are the best people in the world?

   People work to make valuable career and achieve many different achievements in their lives, we’re always looking for the best situation of life and nobody disagree with this way.

   We all need help to realize something important in the life, regardless to the percentage of this help is big or small.

   The nice people are: who have good qualities and nice ethics, these people are very welcome from the society, and they're very respectful also, because the society appreciates so much in its depths that.

   I read sometimes in news (in newspapers or international magazines), about people who founded the organizations for charity, to give foods for hungry people, to provide the pure water or the basic services for health, to contribute in the education’s operations, and …… a lot of them.

   They don’t look for the fame because already they’re. But I can interpret that in some words: “these people know very well how to live their lives”, they find way among the ways of happiness in life, and they understand how they can make their lives so interesting life.

  The morality - which I mean here today - is about ourselves: me, you, and everybody reads now with me:

   How much do you see yourself important and useful in this life? How can you evaluate your contribution in your society? In your town; at least in your road between home and work? You greet your neighbours, you stand in the bus to let the older people to sit,..etc. these are the true meanings of the helpful person in the society.

   We all have many advantages, many sources of livelihood; they differ from a person to another, you’ve the respectful job, and good educational level, the well-off and pleasant life, good conditions in your lifestyle. But if I’ve the right to ask you something: when it was the last time where you helped somebody in his (her) personal life? Or where you gave (someone in need in the street) a little from your money? When ( it was the last time) where you visited your friend who needs you really?

   Sometimes I think; if we gather all our money (and our welfares) which we've in the life in one side, and all people in the second side. I see that these graces can be available for everyone and enough to guarantee a respectful life to everybody too. But this is only a theoretical thinking.

    We can’t change the world; but we can change our worlds, and we can control our lives. And when everybody do that; we’ll feel the difference in the conditions of society. You can see the difference even if it’s small, and they look so simple behaviours really. That it brings the happiness to you and that will be the first step to make the changing - it’s to start by ourselves -.

   “The best people are the most useful to others; the most helpful; the best people are who can provide valuable means to help people around them, even by their words, or their smiles only”. You can measure yourself according to these criteria. Because the life has no meaning without sharing the good things with others.

   One thing more I remember now; your achievements inside the family, if you try to be useful person out home, you must do more in home to be serviceable person to the family, to be the best of the best people. You don’t forget one of these two sides - home and outside -, but you can always balance between them. 

And remember : the best people are the most helpful people.

the meditation it's also a way to find ourselves.

In this universe; the mankind is one among the creatures, the god is the most generous, when he created the human in the best look (appearance) and gave him the mind. This mind is the only mean to differ between the human-being, and everything   else. And also, only mean to insure the thinking before doing.

    The human thought and he created wonderful civilizations during centuries; he invented the machines, transportations means, communicating ways, and organizing for the lifestyles…etc. to make his life easier always and more comfort. It’s the origin of instinct to think always to reach the best cases and ideality.

    So we can’t imagine the life without the existence of thinking; else this strong power (the mind) will be inactive and we waste very important energy from human energies. So how can we invest in this power in everywhere we’re?

    I always read from the Qur’an some verses which say:

“ Verily! In the creation of the heavens and the earth, and in the alternation of night and day, there are indeed signs for men of understanding. Those who remember Allah (always, and in prayers) standing, sitting, and lying down on their sides, and think deeply about the creation of the heavens and the earth, (saying): "Our Lord! You have not created (all) this without purpose, glory to You!” 3, verse 190  (searchtruth.com)

“Then let man look at his food, (and how We provide it):…” 42, verse 24 (searchtruth.com)

“So let man see from what he is created! ….” 86, verse 5 (searchtruth.com)

     And other verses too confirm the same thing, and classify the meditation (in universe) as one of practical adorations. Also there are many other concepts in other cultures say the same. Because the need to meditation for repairing our souls and our lives generally. Many different nations of people, and the same thing from animals in wilds, birds, insects, ..Etc. Several lifestyles which we should look at them (carefully) and extract the moralities and the lessons (from them) for our future. So what we mean exactly by the meditation?

    The meditation is the thinking (reflection) in the natural phenomenons, daily events, and in all creatures in this universe, even in yourself as a human.

    The scientists know that, and they follow their pure instincts, and they derive a lot of products, achievements from the universe. Because they meditate very well in the natural and universal phenomenons, and observe any system to get the information.

     Many events happen in our lives, we just see them as simple events or coincidences only. We neglect the need of meditation in all these, although it’s necessary for the spirits. Also the meditation is the only way to renew this human energy –the mind- and to spend (in the same time).

     A lot of moments in your life can provide to you a great and precious conclusions, only through the meditation in these moments, when you tender with weak people, be tolerant with wrong people, generous with others whom are in needs,….etc. without asking them for *thanking* or asking any other thing as a recompense in contrast of your good treatment.

     We can’t make the life better - and easier - if we don’t get many good qualities like the patience, kindness, smartness, knowledge, lessons…) and we can’t get them if we don’t reach to real precious modalities in the human life, and these modalities won’t be inside us if we don’t meditate in this universe and inspire from its phenomenons, and its events (our daily events).

     Your thinking – deeply - (in this world and all what happen in it) brings the wisdom to you, and it’ll help you always make the best decisions in your life, and let you choose between many available choices).

      Look differently to your life and what happens in it, you’ll find your human soul, and you’ll feel yourself realizing your roles, and the reasons for your existence in this life.

where is your opinion ..in your personal issues?

    The mankind is based on social life, and no one can continue a normal life lonely. Which means; it’s necessary to deal with people in everywhere. Some people thank you when you behave kindly with them, and they appreciate that (you’re wonderful, good person, kind …etc.), these are - of course - their opinions about you in this time. In contrast; we can see some misunderstood, or conflicts with relatives, friends, neighbours, or colleagues, even from teachers unfortunately, also we hear like that from teachers, and we hear some descriptions like (you’re so bad person, selfish, stupid, arrogant ...etc.) The descriptions which represent their temporary views about you also, right?

    The pretty thing is that we all hear the both of opinions in different degrees, and that proves that the human isn’t perfect to handle – rightly - everything in front of him; absolutely. But the bad thing is when these views be part of your fate and they bring to you many psychological pressures and mental problems, to be upset, or egoist, desperate, depressed, it can be worse when you lose the confidence in yourself. And you don’t feel yourself an ordinary person like others because of a small changing in your psychology. Then it’ll be difficult to deal with people and treat them even to achieve your goals.

  To overcome your fears from the future, to override these obstacles and realize something you desire in the life, it’s important to know some things:

-         As we said in the previous article; not all what you know is the absolute truth, and maybe a lot of matters which we believe in them, (these matters) they are only some opinions, and they couldn’t be true always. Even the matter how others see you on it

-         All what you hear (from others) about yourself, they’re just views also, depending to the angle which they see you, and they think about you. Even many opinions are similar sometimes, but they still only opinions and they form a part from the truth (because of the similarities in views of many people), and not all the truth.

-         The best way to treat them is to revise yourself and your steps, to look back to your thinking ways and your attitudes with people, in order to regulate these steps, and enhance toward the best. To think maybe you’re wrong in something to make people don’t understand your intentions.

-         The truth is fixed that they stay opinions, and they can change in different moment to the both: best or worse, and remember always that the opinions of people in you; don’t refer or express you necessarily. But the more important thing is your view and your opinion about yourself, after revising (all these data, opinions, conditions around you), revise these reasons together to make your clear view about yourself.

    Now it’s the your minute to think in your opinion about yourself, to do not insult your mind, and to trust more yourself in the next steps, because the life is continued.

where’s your opinion .. in the global issues

   The reading of all events in world makes many different analyses, and the basic resource in world of getting information today is the media, where we can through it, we can make our opinions in these matters from the several opinions shown on media. And that confirms the impossibility of media to be objective in showing the truth for people, for these reasons, i chose the media as a powerful resource. But unfortunately many of these opinions become ours too, and more, they become our convictions.  And we often talk and behave in starting from these ideas. Though the truth (sometimes) isn’t the same as we know it and not all what we know is the truth.

 So these opinions control us although they aren’t absolute, and they guide our decisions and views in life too.

   The most striking example I know now is : the bad image in world of Muslims as a nation, many accuses, hate, revulsion , and marginalization ...etc., all that just appear when people hear the word “Muslim”, regardless to the person or his origins, or his education. And we see clearly the stereotype which isn’t based on truth, but on some opinions only of intellectual currents. “ There the damage in reflection of people when these opinions become convictions “. Consequently; the final judgment won’t be true and fair enough always, and wrong in many times. Later I’ll talk more about this topic (what we really know).

    Here I wanted to warn you about some things, what do you say about all what you hear? Do you agree with all these opinions, and you accept them like absolute truth, and you believe in them? (Just because of harmonization with your tendencies). Or the right thing is to look for the truth through searching about all aspects before make a judgment?.

  When we’ve more information, we’ll have new view often and different opinions, and we can’t never find more information if we just rely on the same resources (by the way, the only resource here is the media).

  Generally this is the reality, but I want to focus on the individual in his close world, with relatives, friends, and colleagues. As the media affect our positions and our minds in different matters; also, the people around us affect our views and our minds in personal issues. In the next article, I’ll give some logical ideas to overcome the pressures (coming through opinions of these people) about the personal life.

The rights & confines:

  The liberty represents a philosophical problem, where philosophers divided between 2 ways, who says it’s absolute for the human, and in contrast who sees it’s limited in confines. And every one among them has his arguments to confirm his opinion. We don’t want to broaden in this matter through the philosophical aspect because of the aim here is to light the way and give a general idea about “ the freedom of expression”, in the time where it becomes one of top issues in world today, with several faces and aspects.

  A lot of slogans are on, in the name of human rights (generally), or women rights, minorities …etc, which proving that the world in confused between many opinions because of “ambiguity in definitions “, and in this way the concept changes from person to another. And that also brings the diversity in positions and reactions too.

  If we say that the human being has the right to do everything he want, so that’s an arguments of individual liberty, and democratic life in society, if we can say that, so is it possible to justify the abuse of somebody to others as a freedom in conducts ? Furthermore; if I choose driving in highway but in the opposite direction, or acclaim in street with rude speaking and ugly words, only because i want to do that, is it logical??!!! I think this doing couldn’t be expected only when the person is fugitive or mad. And this blindly acting and it isn’t a real right from human rights.

 We give another example; when you hear on TV,  and you receive daily letters mocking from you, because they don’t like your orientations, or what are precious for you, aren’t the same for them. Can we call that as a freedom of speech too?? !!!

Every person, part, or nation, …etc, has a set of sanctities and symbols, which mean models for them in whole life. Is it logical to accuse these symbols and abuse them because they aren’t valuable to me? I think it’s not, or there is another incitation to this stupid doing ..maybe?

 We can’t imagine the democratic reality which considers the freedom of expression, without control and define the concept of this kind of liberties and define that in every domain, so what do we mean by the freedom of expression?

   Maybe somebody says: it means to say (everything I want) about every matter even if the saying includes an abuse to others, other replies: when they accuse me, I couldn’t stay silent, and here we’ll have a mess, a conflict. The act which looks like a liberty in first opinion, this second sees it as an abuse. And that means: if the opinion is mocking and not building, surely it’s a provocation like what it’s happening in policies or gov criticism.

   But to override by your opinion to accuse sacral rites of other communities with no reason, so nobody agrees to you where it is not your business to judge them if they’re right or wrong, whatever in their reflection or religion. And the precise definition which we can give it to “the freedom of expression” is: the liberty of individual (or organizations or authorities) in opinion through his doing or saying stops where it is the end of freedom of others, and no right to override that or abuse them, because they all have the right in their own doings and beliefs, if they don’t touch the beliefs of others communities too. That’s what I meant by the second example (about TV’s ridiculing), when we see many means of media do that to insult communities or nations. In order that shouldn’t be a target to provoke them under the name of freedom.

   In this way we reach the imperative truth:

The freedom of individual “of sound mind” in his opinion, undergoes to confines dictated by his mind, (just to prevent him from assaulting others), without causing any damage or loss of his rights. This concept can be applied to institutions and organizations in the same time.

The transition (oscillation) between the 3 worlds (part 03)

    Many reasons which make this diversity between people, and sometimes make their interests look so small, close and absurd in many times. Among them, the education’s systems in first class, followed by the social conditions of families, in result of bad economic funding, especially in poor countries where their people live only on less than 2 € per month. Furthermore; the historical factor plays an important role to form the living patterns and destabilizing the cultural identity.

   The wars in world contributed in this diversity too, especially the imperial forces which were accompanied by different projects touching the cultural aspects, religious, social and economic too for local citizens who suffered from that for many decades and even now. Also the evacuation toward the mountains and highlands; that make with time (between generations) the ignorance and defeatist mentality, with big interesting only to getting the Livelihoods, and only just to guarantee the continuity. And become (between people) the material and personal benefits more priority than the principles and semitic values in society. Their effects appear in the social life from the simple treatments and deals in daily life to the big levels where we can see it clearly.

    This matter is individual and concerning everybody, therefore the possibility to find it in every society is certain. Because of the commanding conditions are the same, but the effects only change from a person to another.

   The educational level of individual (of educated people) achieves a progress in reflection and helps them more to make important interests with value. But it can’t be an articular criterion, because sometimes we find a contradiction with this description (unfortunately).

   Archives of history, registered the names of people were great in the past, not because of their social positions or their material capacities; but the reason was how much were stable and constant on their principles and values, and sacrificing of them. Starting from a deep belief in them, in contrast; others who don’t remember even themselves, because their value (in society) is associated with their interests , and measured by their ambitions, and mental or tangible products.

The transition (oscillation) between the 3 worlds (part 02)

Everyone (as we said before) is living among these 3 worlds, and all people are spending their lives by thinking according to their world, and they swim in one of these 3 oceans (worlds).

Maybe you wonder now where you classify yourself, in which one? The answer is inside you.

If you’re interested in global ideas, and the principles, the manners and good qualities, (all those) if they’re more important for you (where you can’t across them or override) than satisfying some people or getting benefits,

Or your idols are some (soccer players, actors, singers …etc.), and especially politicians (local authorities), and following all details of these famous people in media. Regardless to the conditions of the real life around you, and your culture is depending only to these things, so i ask you to think again and awake up from this dream, because it’s the world of people.

Or maybe the business (your money, houses, cars, clubs …etc.) dominates on your life, and more important in your opinion, so you’re ready to do everything available to get your targets, and you’re living in the world of things.

Educated people who evaluate the principles and make value for people who have precious characters, and precious minds, these people are living in the 3^rd world (world of ideas).

Everybody can find himself, and can see how much he (she) is integrated in these worlds, and belong to them.

Which one of these options below, do you like?

To living in stupid things, or worshiping some people, it’s the proof to represent really your weakness and no-confidence in yourself.

 Or

Keeping in consideration (at first) the valuable concepts and meanings in life, to give an additional value to the humanity; whatever your position or your place.

These people are sacrificing for the idea, whatever the person who said it, because of the value of this idea is so great, in contrast, others are sacrificing for the persons whatever their ideas and their ways in life. Because of the goal is an intellectual benefit, or material benefit.

In other times, we’ll talk about the reasons which make that between people in this worldly life.

The transition (oscillation) between the 3 worlds

In this world; the people differ in their interests, and aspirations, and everybody has a very special life which it seems so normal life for him (her), but these interests can differ from the great interests to the absurd ones. And they always appear so important for their owners.

According to Malek Ben Nabbi; an Algerian intellectual and philosopher, in his book’s series entitled by “the problems of civilization” he illustrated the transition of human being between 3 worlds throughout his life, these worlds are (the world of things, the world of (people) persons, and the world of ideas), these worlds aren’t physical ( in world’s geography), but they’re mentally worlds ( for everybody), and he said: “the human life, switch between different phases during years. The baby when he is born; he becomes in the first world “world of things”, where everything, every person…etc, around him, looks like a thing. So you can see him playing by his hands in the air, the same way which he plays by his toys. After a few years; this baby grows up and in first years from his life, the transition occurs to the second world “ of persons”, and the child now has very close people to live with them, and they are typifying his world and representing it, these people can be his parents, siblings, …etc. at any time, this kid when he finds himself in street (alone), he scared from this new world ( where nothing is ordinary in this place contrary to what seems at home), because he sees strange people, and can’t feel free until being between his accustomed people, his family and home ( his world)”.

Years later, the boy grows up, and he goes to the kindergarten, to the school, or park, new people walk in his world, and also; new things except what’s inside home. The boy now, is going to school for many years, and he started to think about new experiences, when he heard a lot of them during his classes. And again another transition toward the 3^rd world “world of ideas”, even now, everything looks normal and ordinary, but the problem comes is when many people are blocked in the first world, or maybe the second, when the boy (or girl) becomes young, and his (her) interests are focused on material things only, and the way of knowledge or human sciences are not important to interest by them, here we find the problem in society.

The main problem is when two people react differently toward the same event, or parliamentary declaration for example, when the first treats the problem as nothing happened, whereas the second can see a catastrophic problem, and a big danger for the security of society.

These reactions are different for one reason: these two people aren’t in the same world, and the first one is living in the world of things, and any news about problems in food prices, can disturb him more than human rights in his country or the equality in making critical decisions.

The second one, lives in the world of ideas, so his mind is thinking in high level about the society, and he debates and discusses deeply all sides of this events, the reasons, symptoms, and solutions how to resolve it.

This is the difference simply, different worlds, means different interests, but the question is: which one from these worlds is suitable for the human life?

The next part will take more clarification about the difference between people among these 3 worlds. 

Time out .. to look back.

The life is full of coincidences, surprises, and many events, for everybody. And we’ve to interact  with them and have a reaction toward everything happen.

The majority of these crossroads happen in second and third decades of our lives (an a little bit maybe happen before too). Where the friends are as close as the family (or more), where we start really make deals and pacts with this world.

In first clash with real face of life, we don’t know what we should do exactly, we walk in very careful steps (less experiences), or stat imitating people around us, to feel by some of confidence. The fate gives us many opportunities to meet precious people (and some people want to help us, and others hurt us in somehow), but the good news is:

That the both are giving the help, the first one is easy to understand, but the second is an experience which makes us stronger than before in front of life. And the two kinds of people, together; guide us to conclude that in the life we must go ahead.

And of course, the years are expiring quickly, and the life also, new experiences, new knowledge and new people around us too.

 It’s sooo busy life, right ? !!! the success after another .. and everything looks well, because we feel that. We’re still looking for the future and we think a lot how can we make a great future, but before few months, or years …etc we felt the same ( I guess). The question is :

Why we forgot the people of preview years (or just months) ? you can answer me that is the life.  But let me try to help you in answer, some people were beside you in bad times (all time) and you should be grateful to them ( at least by staying in touch with them), because now; you’re us you’re it, through their help and their standing beside you,  ( the problem is that we forgot the bad times, when we’re fine , and also forgot that kind people.) and we don’t appreciate really what others did for us in those times.

Did you think maybe one of them  desperately need you now ? or just talk with ( to give the feeling of not isolation ) Prove him ( her) that he (she) isn’t excluded or  marginalized.

I’ll tell my opinion here, if you never thought about that, even these people were always so kind and polite with you, always, so you worthily have honor of appellation ” SELFISH “.

Why not, now you have many people and friends, you don’t need ancients of them, you abhor to think in old way, as you were before, yes ! even you were also happy how you were in that time.

If you continue thinking in the same way as you’re now, and stay in contact with these friends, what can change? Nothing !!!

The word “precious”, means that’s rarely to find such as that thing. And also the friend, when you find him \ her, you’ll be so stupid if you left him \ her after short time.

The life can change our interests, but shouldn’t change our good principles, our good qualities,  And if the future is everything for you, so no future without your outcomes from past.

Maybe someone agrees with me, and someone no, share with us your opinions and answers about these questions.