our relashionships .. with family memebers (2)

    The family is considered the basic cell in the society and we can’t reach to stability of society if we don’t reform this important element. The contemporary lifestyles touched a lot the strength of family ties and affected on them, and many families stay only relied by the same name, and that’s only what gathers them in fact. Sadly these situations hurt many people in different degrees.

    When the parents were playing with their children for a long time, today the technology takes the mission from them. The lifestyles today with these new technologies and a lot of business, all that let people in family like machines, and they rarely meet themselves and sit in the same place. Therefore the care of family - almost - has no priority in the human life and the relations became weak more and more.

    I said in the previous article that some families are like enemies, and I repeat again now: if someone in in family turns back on you, you don’t do the same and turn your back on him (her, them) you should confront the bad treatment by the good treatment that it proves your high qualities. I confirm to you to think again and take a step to reform your relations. I don’t tell you it’s easy to do it, but it can be easier if you look from another aspect to the matter, and the pains disappear (or -at least- they’ll decrease) when we forgive less than when we keep a certain distance away from them.

   I wonder from one thing; when someone didn’t talk to his (her) brother (or sister, parents) for months or for few years maybe, so what’s the meaning of the brotherhood in your dictionary? Which meaning do you have for the words: brother, sister, parents, family; if you can’t forgive the mistakes of your brother, or sister, or any member in family? I tell you: you can’t define clearly them to me now if you’re in this situation, and you can't give a strict definition. Because these words have no sense and the meaning is empty from your side.

   if you want to satisfy yourself and give yourself some answers about your truth, I ask you to strengthen your relationships with family by “respecting the elderly members, visiting family members, checking on them, helping them, showing mercy to youngsters, offering support to all in times of joy and sorrow.”(Dr.Al-Nabulsi)

   All this good treatment brings you the happiness and expresses your real value in the life. That’s the way to give us finally reformed society (for our safety) by strengthening the family ties, because it’s the missed thing in the world and it’s the spirit of the civilization.

     In brief: I ask you to care more about these matters in your life with family, especially with parents of one of them. Because you won’t give them their rights on you whatever you do good for them.