the dialogue, the best way of communication (to keeping your relationships)

    Nobody disagrees that the dialog is important in life between people, and through it we can make a platform for our relationships and understand each other, regardless to the type of these relations. But: some people prefer their impression to define the way of communication with others, and they interpret by their minds only instead to make debates and talking explicitly.

     I give you some examples: “my friends didn’t call me last 2 weeks and I think this friend is angry at me”, or “there’s something new, it happened but my friend didn’t tell me about it yet, and i heard from others. I think there is a problem when he (she) didn’t tell me immediately about it”.  Even now “I just THINK”, right !!! And I’m sure that you’ve that in your life, with friends, colleagues, at least it happened once. And many other examples are in people’s life. The problems appear when you let your thoughts go far and without any criteria you start to react from them, which are made of your fiction only, in many times so far from the fact. Your imagination brings you this reasoning and these conclusions to destabilize your relations with this person or that friend, and probably it’ll be broken in the end.

    It was nice to so do something better (before tiring your mind by empty thinking, and interpret something aren’t true), it’s better to talk directly with the concerned person in the matter, and shorten your way.

   I advise you (in your talking) to use the decency of dialogue, don’t rely on your thoughts at all, ask: “what happens?” in first, what’s the strange income in last days? The reasons which lead you to this situation. Then inquire about the details, make a positive dialogue, honest conversation, because when the other person clarifies the matter to you, certainly you’ll avoid a lot of conflicts in your mind, and with this person (friend or colleague,..).

   That it happens often between friends, and sometimes these thoughts let the relation in forested position, you shouldn’t forget that your goal to get a progress, not to establish the proof on this friend that he (she) is wrong. In order to strengthen the relation not to look like winner and lose people who are around you. Remember that always before doing any stupid reaction can make you regret.

   My friend, if you’ve anything about me, or any strange feeling about me; please I’ll be grateful if you tell me honestly about it, and we can talk about the matter and handle everything together, it’ s better than staying in doubts.

   Don’t let your thoughts fill the gaps in your mind to give answers, and these guesses decide in your place and define your treatment with people, there is always a way better to keep your relationships well, when you talk clearly and hear what the other side has in mind, you can understand the answer, after that you can judge and decide.