Differences: between “equality” & “equity” (the fairness). (part 2/2)

    In this second part, I’ll continue displaying the view on the topic, by more explanations and arguments, because the matter needs a lot of concentration to understand and we’ll continue from the idea which says that the equity means to distribute the rights and responsibilities according to every single situation, and of course we’ll find many similarities and in the end we’ll have some patterns which control this mechanism.

    And here is another example, you can’t give two people in your family the same responsibilities without considering the age, the sex, the consciousness, the ability and efficiency, and the knowledge of each one, also you can’t give all them the same advantages for the previous factors too.

    I continue in the same sample, in the family, all children have the same rights and treatment theoretically from their parents, and I mean the basic thing like : Eating, drinking, outfits, education and learning, …etc. but when someone is sick, he must get a special treatment and care more than others else it’s not fair enough. So when people have the same criteria, they get the same dealing and that’s the equality between them. But once someone is featured by an additional criteria, of course he must get an additional treatment – more or less - according to the case, a treatment that differs to others whether more or less, reward or punishment, better or worse,…etc.

    So practically the life absolutely managed in a way that the equity is the principle whatever the situation is, or the treatment we do towards others, maybe you can realize that when you see yourself behaving differently from a person to another, right! Logically because you don’t make them in the same position according to: the age, kinship ties, gender, nationality, religion, or just the kindness of personality (when someone is kind, or rude, educated or ignorant, easy-going, flexible or fanatic,..etc.)

    There is another suspicion, it’s about the equality between man and woman, this idea brings many of troubles in the human life, simply because it’s not fair enough in their rights (whether man or woman), because in some situations we’ll be unjust to put on woman responsibilities greater than the strength that she can (or she has) to bear (in comparing with the man) and the same for the man too. So we’ve to respect and to take account of those characteristics and traits in each one in order to instruct the convenient tasks and requirements in life, and in that way we shouldn’t admit the equality between man and woman, but there must be equity between them, because in some situations it’s needed to prioritize the woman by more advantages than the man, and some other situations; it’s the opposite. In other words; that everyone has his own rights and responsibilities dependant (and not obligatory the same at once) but complementary to the second in the life overall.

    It was a big lie in our world that we appeal to equality and convince ourselves whereas the matter will be more unjust if we apply that in every part of life in fact. Rarely to find exactly the same situation that requires one equal treatment whether between people or societies when you can match between, and there will be a similarity between them only in that situation, once a new condition comes across; you’ll be obliged to change from your attitude against and then your treatment (not the same with others like before) and that’s depending to every detail in your life.

Differences: between “equality” & “equity” (the fairness). (part1/2)

    I don’t want to stop talking in this topic without passing from the matter of equality, and in this article; the difference will be between “equality” & “equity” (the fairness) that’s one of the issue that people very much confuse, not only some people, but I think it’s a polemic that makes a problem in the entire world.

    I bring an example here, and I enter to the matter from an economic side; the procedure that guarantees the governmental support for people on basic products those they need (or subsidy in prices of basic things as food, milk, water..etc), it’s a way to support those people about what they need in daily life. It was –this procedure- in order to make equality between all people in their rights and social life, but in fact that was only an advantage for whose have a comfort income, where they get a lot of benefits from it and from many procedures like this one.

    Whereas the targeted category in society doesn’t get any benefits at all, because of the low incomes they can’t obtain the true reason from the procedure, and it doesn't bring any change in fact. So the opportunity isn’t disposable for everyone like it seems in the beginning and it’s preferable that the support goes directly to the hands of targeted people among others (after defining them well) because of their needs and not for everyone alike.

   This last isn’t equality of course (because we prioritized a part of people more than others for certain reasons), but it’s an equity in the society to make the balance and nobody can make an excuse – for himself - to object that. That’s from an economic side, and we can make a comparison to all different sides of life.

    So the main idea that we get is: the essence of equality is looking to the general apparition from the procedures, but the essence of equity is looking to the purposes – after/ later - from those procedures in life.

   The second idea is: the necessary that they should do is to providing the proper environment – for everyone - to get his opportunity or possessing something (or achieve something), then people decide to work seriously on this way – to get that opportunity and apply in reality - or to waste their chances if they’re not serious enough or if they’ve different interests. And thirdly; the nomination of equality is prevailed in life on the basic term which is the equity,

   The equity is to give everyone his deserved rights, and those rights are different from a person to another according to the circumstances and situation of everyone, it means sometimes the equality can be no equity in some applications, and the two terms be in opposition in that case. We need to take all sides in consideration to guarantee the equity as a value in the society agreeing with the human nature to create a good environment for the continuance of life.

Differences : between “education” & “care”.

    We can’t deny the effect of our understanding to the matter on the way how we react and teat after, therefore we should always think carefully before doing any step in way to reacting. Today we continue in the same context with the previous article and highlighting some terms be displaying the differences between.

    And I continue today with this couple of words “education” & “care”. It’s very important matter in our life whether in level of family or society in general. A lot of people know really that there’s a difference between the two words, but in fact they can’t apply that true meaning of each one. In other words; people confuse between them practically and not idiomatically. I mean when they think themselves doing the act of education (educating their children for example); in fact they’re just doing enough care about them, and nothing else. Many of them understand that the education is to provide the necessary for a normal life like doing homework, feeding them, supplying food and outfit, giving instructions like brush your teeth, eat well, …etc, with a view to have the typical way of life, and by the way that means a care only and some rules that help to organizing the ordinary process of the life.

    But the education is depending to the principles that the kid must carry for his life to manage it correctly the most possible and redirect his behaviours towards the right way. And according to my simple knowledge about this issue, I learnt and I searched about: what scientist say in the matter, then I preferred here to transfer that to you through this article and I say that the principles are coming by teaching new thoughts and training to have special convictions from, those principles are the headlines of life and making deep roots for great values in themselves to define how normally should they behave and deal with their environment. Second one is changing their interest and redirect them to integrate into different areas of life (since the childhood) in order to learn more skills (artistic, technical, social, ..etc), regardless to their personal tendencies. 

    Because of one from mistakes of parents during the education is to let them do anything they want freely, and don’t interfere by their experience to redirect their children’s desires until they lose the control. The results - often -will be an irresponsible person in the end and without any landmark in life as a genuine human.

    The education requires too to transplant the proper values and reinforce its pillars, to interfere in the relationships of children and help them how to manage conflicts, how to spot them and fix the problems, guide them to have good companions,…etc. without forgetting an important factor to help you in this mission, the factor is to “making models” for them whom they fellow and imitate, that has a huge effect on personalities and on their future generally and to be successful in life.

    Furthermore; you see how we can look so wrong only because we don’t interpret rightly the true meaning of each term and then we behave different than we intend to do. The matter here is like giving direct decisions without any explanation; and the second is teaching how to take that decision in logical process according to the previous factors that the children already got them in the same time. So it’s important issue and everybody should care more about it in this life.

Differences: between “dream” & “goal” and “ability” & “possibility”.

    In this article we’ll try to distinguish between some important idioms that people confuse and mix between them in life in time of its interpretation, when someone say them he means something else, or feels himself doing a different sense.  I mentioned that before in some articles when I made a difference between “dream” & “goal”, and I said that the dream can be an unreal imagination according to the logical dimension in life like the time, era, and has some contradictions maybe with sciences like physics, biology or the logic; whereas the goal is a realistic and certain destination that the person can reach after a fixed time (deadline) and during the process of a specified planning (possible to realise it).

    With the second couple of terms also between “abilities” & “possibilities”, the ability is the feature that the person can possess in his competences where many of people haven’t it, this trait can be mental or physical, and generally the skills that the person has them which are depending to his inside. The possibility means the environment of that person and which nature is it in fact? Like his resources, offers that he can get in his life, his opportunities…etc, depending to the outside of the person. The both together help him to achieve his goals and get a progress in his life.

    Therefore the existence of valuable abilities –in the person- is a good factor, but when the opportunity from the environment is missed; that will inhibit the achievement of the goal or deferring in the time

    I would like to remind you by those differences to clarify the depth of the matter, because we don’t have only those terms that we confuse in life, we’ve more others and if we don’t think about them or we deal with in simple way; we can’t handle many things in our everyday life, because every treatment of something starts from your idea about it and your thoughts. The next article will show more of important differences that we confuse so much in life.

What are the serious matters that the person has to think about ?

    As we said before, the mind’s mission can’t be shorten only in creating and innovating new things in the people’s lives, we can’t deny the grace of great innovations those came to us from great minds during centuries, and of course they did a great favour for all the humanity, but we’ve also something else more important to do in the same time depending directly to the self of everyone (they might do it and no one can do it instead of another, because it’s a direct importance for every person).

    In this part, we’ll show some parts that are concerning this side of human life. Perhaps some people who are very successful in their lives, but they’re living in hell inside home, or they’re struggling with health problems too, and they can’t fix their personal problems at home even the most simple ones, and he can’t be so pleasant by his life although he’s successful person in his goals. Or maybe the reverse too Right ! So, what to do in this situation?

    Scientists confirm that the human life is based on several pillars so be stable such as (spiritual, social “familial & personal”, emotional, professional, physical health, and material). And whenever the person has a trouble in one among these principal pillars, be sure that this person has an instable life.  And the happiness is relied on the balance between all sides of life. If there is any side smaller than others there’ll be instability in the life of that person, so the matter necessitates a serious care about to recover the balance again by focusing more on that leanness side and decreasing from other strong ones.

    Finally, I ask everybody who reads to draw that wheel of those six sides and evaluate himself in each one from “0” (zero) in the centre of wheel until “10” in the circle. Then you’ll find out how is going your wheel? Is it running well? So where is the defect in, and then what’s the next procedure to handle it?

    The minority of people only who recognized in life that many matters are as important as the material things and professional career. When you‘re thinking always in way how to develop your career, don’t forget to look how to keep your peace inside and repose your soul by satisfying your spiritual needs (which looks marginal in many times); meantime by thinking for a way to preserve the strong ties in your familial life, interacting with people, and so on.  Like that every person can attain the minimum at least to realize himself and do an important step towards his happiness.

What does everybody need? (From being in touch with others)

    It’s very obvious to us that everyone needs to interact with his environment by all its components, and in the first place interacting with other people like him. And I would like to remind you that the human nature is for living in sociable way to deal and react with that.

How can that interaction be in right meaning?

Keeping the hope:

    As we said before; the hope is very important factor to continue on the road, and without it; the people have no will to realize something they wish in life, they even lose the wish to do. But when your milieu brings to you the hope in somehow, and people around you are supporting you, trying to motivate you in several ways, show you some light in the murk of hopelessness. Show you their standing by your side, in that situation you may feel some hope and your mind lighted again by a new mental charge – like a device that turn on when it’s connected  to electricity-, all that to not surrender and retake the will to do what’s important for you.

More of patience:

    When you recover your hope, you’ll have the necessary energy to restart in right way. You’ll think how can you make yourself better and then your life in the good sense, when you recover your taste to life again you start looking for a way how to handle that, Even if these people they don’t know all details and the real circumstances around and pressures within; but when you feel their support, you’ll be shy if you disappoint their belief in you. But it’s not enough; you need the patience to not rush on results and keep doing your efforts to overcome the hardness of your bad times.

Strength and understanding through contact:

    When you need someone to talk to; you’ll be lucky if you find that person. Because people rarely when they think to give some of their time to others, whereas they should do that many times (I talked about that when I said that the happiness comes by giving more than by taking in life, so like you get try to give them also when it's possible). The discussion is the way to clarifying any confusion comes in minds, and rectify the thoughts.

    So it’s very important to the person to get that from his environment because he feels himself a factor in it, and a valuable element also, not just a rigid piece, and the close people are committed to do that.

Aspiration:

    Clearly to have the hope and the necessary strength to fulfil something fruitful in your life, it’s preferable to be in touch with very positive people who can motivate you and affect on you through their positive aura, positive charge, energies, and motivating sensitive words, to inspire from their process in life, in how they behave and dealing with challenges, and their effective doings towards realizing their goals. In result, you’ll reload your battery again, you’ll be positive too and very ambitious to get what you’re looking for, then your feelings will be always pushing you towards this required target (which increase your hope too) and you’ll achieve it while you’re still ambitious and in this stimulating environment.

    Mainly those are very important to have but moreover; people want to have trust and confidence, joy, sympathizing with them in life to not feel isolated and their presence in the mankind‘s life and not just a piece in one corner - to avoiding more diseases those coming from the lack of social dealings in life like the autism -.

    People are committed to contacting each other in our world because of the nature of life’s rules and be acquainted for exchanging thoughts and ideas, taking part of knowledge and sciences, sharing feelings and emotions and values too, contributing in the general and personal development alike, even the bad experiences will be a kind of sedateness and like a guide to you for what’s next in life, all those by being in contact righty with each other which broaden the horizons, and let the minds more opened.

What does everybody need? (To realize his existence correctly in life).

The human is the only creature on the planet that possesses a mind, and he’s featured by this great grace between all creatures to find out the reason and the purpose from his existence in the world. It means that all creatures in the universe are created to be devoted for the human, and realizing his existence.  But not all people have the luck to discover that with the truth which says that everybody is created for a specified reason.

Habitually; we got the first information from people around us who experimented them before, in other words it’s a ready knowledge we obtain easily from others, and that’s running ordinarily between generations.  The past provides an immense service for humanity to learn lessons from mistakes of previous people (individuals or in groups). Those previous experiences can guide us to developing ourselves in the everyday life (in all its details). It was the mind that let the humanity did great steps towards the luxury of life and civilization during centuries and eras. The lifestyle of people is growing up constantly and always there is a new thing comes (from creative minds) to our world in order to facilitate the life and to make it easier and more comfort than before. We can see an interpretation of that in several things around us whether in material or mental products and creations; we can touch the progress in comparing with previous eras.

That mission (which the mind provides to us) requires to keep moving on the same road, learning from previous mistakes, and correct into the current life, all that for serving the next generations to have a life better than ours now, we teach them from childhood to establish on the previous gained -knowledge (and start from where the previous are stopped, like defining the headlines of life)then they continue the process in the same context and of course the same mission that the mind is required to do.

When the destiny leads you to a side that you didn’t want (looks like that in first time), and although you spared no effort to get that, don’t be so upset from it because you reached the side that you need in fact (instead what you want), the god’s wisdom wanted to give you what’s necessary and important for you right now, your mind can’t recognize all at same time whereas your creator can do, so respect that and accept in your life and don’t be rush in getting your desires.

During that time, the mind has to do something else, it’s depending to the everyday life, serious matters which every person must think and care enough about them. Those matters are relying on the human life generally from the beginning until the end, the next time; we’ll show generally the essence of these serious matters.

“A life without decency is a silly life, without a mission or responsibility it’s so stupid life and so bored life when there isn’t a goal from the whole life.”  - Dr. An-Nabulsi.

The purposes in life … and purposes of life (part 01).

    Like the people have plenty of interests in their lives, also their purposes differ too, and if you ask a sample among them about the purpose of everybody in his life, you will find many wonder and they hesitate to give an answer because they ever get this question in mind. Si the answer can’t be so easy to tell neither clear. That difficulty for answering is coming from the importance of its question for everyone. If I change the form of question a little and I say “how can you say that you realized the goal from your existence?” then the mind leads to bring answers about dreams or goals that they want to achieve, of course according to their interests in the life.

    And you also start hearing something like :” I want to have my own business, to establish my private company, having my family with me and suitable job, …etc.” from interests of people that they everyday work on. Now I return to my first question and look for answer if there is a difference between “purposes (in / from) life?”

    The majority can’t distinguish between the two clauses according to these prepositions into the sentence. Of course everybody has a purpose in his life and it means: “what does he want?” the purposes from awaking up early in every morning and bearing pressures, going to work, traveling for business affairs, until the end of day with null energy, all that only to realize some goals in the end and to obtain some desires from what he want to have. But the second part which means: “what’s the reason from my life?” and why you’re existing in this life? So if we could find a quick answer for the first question although it’s not easy to find for all, we’re also required to find a one for the second question.

    The human won’t reach the happiness and calm in his soul whatever his circumstances are, until he finds out why he’s in this world. What’s the reason from his creation in the world? And that’s a question for everyone must answer it. Did I come to this life only for doing what I want? And all what I’m looking for; is it the only important matter in my whole life? I made some questions just to animate our minds towards interesting issues, the purposes that we’re looking for in life aren’t the purpose from being alive on the ground whereas they come across in the context, but something else are as important as the goals of our desires.

I can’t bear more, is there any hope? (part 02)

in the same context with the previous part; where I took the health’s problems as an example to show some views about the matter of bearing more time the current situation.

I said also that to coping the situation is depending to the hope, if you lose the gleam of your hope in the matter -that probably it can be fine-, so you’re late to think about it, better to not think again.

It is normal when someone is confused about the way to handle, that's not only your feeling, because it’s the same like many people just with different problems that clash them, maybe you prefer to surrender because of some hopeless thoughts but it’s wrong choice, when you’re feeling so weak; remember it doesn't mean the end of course, our powers and moral are like a curve (up & down), and also the process of life. Now weak and after a while you become stronger, when it’s in a positive moment so it's your chance to pass that hardness of your problem.

By the way, "to overcome a problem, never means that you finished from it, but it means that you handle it and you found a way to deal with"

i guess the majority of people isn't completely healthy in this world and, at least have some psychological problems or some fears from the future (the environment brings that instability because of the mess of events), and with the same example I can say that a lot of people suffer from health, just different diseases which are in degrees too, remarkable or not, ...etc.

When you repeat your mind the thought that ‘you’re feeling weak and can’t resist, of course you’ll be convinced -after a while- that you’re weak and your body get a weakness too, but if you believe in the inverse, just be accustomed with different falls and rises of life during years.

Sometimes it's a matter of psychology and the problem is your attitude from the problem, not the problem itself, when you can overcome in the moment that you find a logical way to deal with, wisely and effectively, and that’s the most important in the way to reach the end of problem. Probably the physical pains are still with you, but their pressures which affect on your other sides of life will decrease in your psychology from inside, so you can bear more and I said mores:

why not to be living together with a bit sickness whereas you’re treating yourself and using constantly the suitable medicine for it, until you recover and get healing, or you maybe forget that you're sick (get used with time), that's not a disaster, and maybe later that sickness will disappear (if you’re doing the necessary and using medicines as an ordinary treatment), and to accepting yourself as you’re in fact doesn’t mean you don’t look for change, because the psychological side helped you a lot when you forget about the matter which is usually some fears from future.

Basically the problem is not only in the health that it can be perhaps with people themselves or someone else that and need their care (like one of parents or kids who is unable), it can be also in job’s tasks, personal life, or when dealing with relatives…etc, always you shouldn’t neglect the side how to look to the matter regardless to ordinary process of treatment.

So generally; it isn’t depending completely to the case itself, but to the way how you deal with and treat it, else this weakness will remain with you longer in your life, no different thought means no different situation.  That you change your perspective about the matter; it’s the best way to adapt with your circumstances, get rid of your fears, and can bear more that situation with a good feeling in your mood for reaching the best in wise steps.

I can’t bear more, is there any hope?

    Several problems that can be at work, or health problems, familiar or personal problems too, the human being (in his life) is exposed to have, which apply a huge pressures on him. The matter to deal with is difficult of course, and it’s depending to his view to the matter, and his way to deal with. This situation leads to have an impression of no way to reaching a happy end after all that.

    When someone realize that the people around are living a perfect life without problems, and only he who suffers from that, he feels himself so weak. The feeling of weakness -because of the hard circumstances- makes the life so difficult, and that can affect on the entirely life of the person, in his work, at home with family, or with himself because of the pressures applied from those circumstances. That feeling comes when the person thinks himself the only person who’s flopping in bad times, and that’s the reason of the weakness.

    I heard from someone that it seems like “the life is playing a strange game in this way” because of some illness and other stuffs too (the reason can be everything, but I can take that as example), that’s hard a little because of no outlet to make an end to the problem.  Maybe you’ve the same situation in your life like with my friend, just with differences in details or places only, and it’s happening with everyone.

    the people whom you see in everywhere in streets, at work, on TV, all have that strange game, only it doesn't appear for you in the same way that it appears in their lives, what appears from your perspective is only their interface, and behind; there is a big mess in the life, people usually are keen to show only the perfect sides which are shining in the life to fascinating others, and the same with everyone in his life when he deals with others, then others will get the impression that he’s living a perfect life whereas he isn’t. So we can realize that some people have really a game stranger than yours as other have less too. You –or everyone- only think the inverse about others, when they all struggle with that and constantly they keep trying to cope, but to overcome that strange game (problem), it’s not depending only to resources (opportunities) of everyone but also his energies and his thoughts as well. Because if you’ve a gleam into your heart that protect you from being completely upset for 100%, so there is a little bit of positive energy to work by it in order to exploiting your remaining time.

    The previous article discussed this matter, I mean when you’re obliged to do something valuable in your life, it’s better to do your best in it, with a wish to get the result that you look for, instead to deepen in your fears towards the worse. So you do your best when you’ve that hope of course. Because the hope -that you will reach a situation better than you’ve now- is the essence of activeness to someone for changing his life towards the best. 

Don't refrain yourself from telling good words!

   The life requires being in touch with people because of plenty of reasons in order to deal then to obtain the desires and interests.

    Nobody denies that the pressures (which come through life’s events and problems) they tire the person and break his will to doing something important as we said before. So it’s an ordinary fact that everyone can have in his life.

    In many times these situations are hard to overcoming them alone and maybe the solution -to handle them- comes from a separated person to the matter as the talking (with someone truthful and trustworthy who can understand you very well as he can understand that matter) is very helpful psychologically in way to resolve your problems, also the listening is useful too.

    If you already met that or someone whom you know in this case (your friend, sibling, colleagues, or just you met him in bus one day) and you heard from him that what’ we mentioned above, it means that this person has a need for help, and hoping to find something with you, else he couldn’t tell you explicitly, if you’re in this case and you can say something useful, so don’t hesitate to tell it (in order to add  a positive value of course), don’t hold back the good words from going outside of your heart! Even if you weren’t asked directly to tell; that you’re able; so release your tongue to bring a positive addition, and to be like a brightening source for your listeners. That because you don’t have the same stress and pressures, so you can bring a different view to the matter and telling your opinion in its positive sense. In the end it’s an opinion but it can be an important part of solution.

    You’re able to tell something useful about the matter that you heard, tell it when you’re permitted to tell! The time goes on, and maybe you forget after a while what you already said, whereas that person will live those words in his reality “like a medicine” where they affected positively on him and on his life generally forever. So that concerned person can recover the hope from your good words, you may be raising his morale, help to change a conviction to the better, all those results can come just through your wise word when you said it.

    You aren’t waiting for any recompense neither thanking, after that try to helping (because maybe you just met once and only one in your life) just do it for nothing in return as a service to someone even when you don’t know him. But when you grant this favour it’ll bring the happiness to your heart that you did something valuable really, one day you’ll meet also who tells you a good word and helps you. Don’t stop telling helpful words when you can that. Just keep yourself saying good words for people whom you know or you meet always in everywhere you’re whatever the situation, that’s better than keeping the silence and being neutral.

    In fact; don’t refrain yourself from telling good words necessary for the situation when you think  it’s the suitable time for it, that favour can be so instrumental for the second person when you do it, in our life it can be also wider than to be limited in words, maybe a mental or a physical effort, every favour (small or big) it’s a great service.

Is the matter valuable to deserve more effort? Part 03

    I want to summarize what I talked about in last two articles, about motivating yourself by yourself when no way to get that from your environment.

Some people also get motivation when they’ve companions in the same way and they’re working in the same target, the problem is in once that these people around stopped for certain reasons, this person also gives up continuing the work on that purpose. So even if nobody is beside you, don't think it's the end, because you can draw your road in different way towards the goal, if you don’t have affability, or any previous model to follow for encouragement only, you can be the first model for yourself and don’t hesitate to try doing your best, right ! Because it can be with incredible findings on you in somehow.

    It’s very bad that feeling when you’re upset from realizing something you want a lot, these eagerness didn’t missed at all, just it was inanimate (a dormant power) because you got preoccupation with something else. It’s a matter depending a lot to the human psychology that you can play on your feelings, apply some tips to renew your fervency and eagerness to get what you desired to have (recall in mind the importance of this matter in your life as we shown before), and in the results; your hidden feelings see the light again lead them towards your aims in the positive sense of course.

    You know generally, whatever your circumstances are in life, remember after the tightness, they will come the easy times where it’s widen around you (I mean the easiness in your circumstances), and after any hardship that you clash in life, the situation will change to be better and joyful for you. Because it’s a feeling when you get easiness in your everyday life (in comparing with previous hardship) you’ll absolutely feel better than before. Those general words can work in every situation you’ve, you want something, but the situation didn’t help enough to get it, and that‘s still important for you to get in your life. So it’s possible to change it if you hadn’t any new factors affecting on the matter.

    By the way, many people live in the past by their minds whereas their bodies are in the present, we shouldn't rely our life on something we don't possess it yet, and also don't regret on something you can't change, but think about the next step how should it'll be, besides, if you worry about something didn't come, it's better to work enough effort and do your best (when you still have time to do something useful in road) in order to tend far from that you're worried from instead  worrying and regretting after  (that's what we mean by doing more effort). The optimistic mood can bring you the motivation without any extern factor, or you deliberately interpret them towards the positive way to motivate yourself and renew your inner motivation.

    That was the summary and I hope it’ll be helpful to think again and more, deeply about the matter that you’re working on to get, to handle, or to achieve it.

: Is the matter valuable to deserve more effort? Part 02

   We talked last time about an important matter, the self-treatment to continue the working on any project or goal that you want to reach it, and I said that the right and objective definition of the matter from the point of its importance or no in your life. That answer can help you to do the next; we’ll make more examples to explain that.

    Another example: your target is fixed by a time, like your exams will be after a week or 2, a year or just some hours) but you can’t study to them, some laziness and of course no motivation and a little hopeless. Surely where there are exams it’s an important matter for you. And there is some times, it means you still have more time to improve your chance to be closer (to your goal) than before (and here in example; it means also a hope, and an opportunity to keep something in your mind and remind yourself by previous gained knowledge). I can tell something here, logically if you don’t do any effort you won’t pass your exams? But if you think positively; When you start studying probably you won’t reach 100% of your preparation on day of your exams, right, but at least with that effort you’ll realize about 80% (more or less), this percentage isn’t great whereas it’s good enough to enter your exams with hope and in optimistic mood.

    So what prevents you to do your effort? At least you won’t regret on exams’ day that you wasted your time whatever the end is pleasant or not, besides your relaxing inside that you really did your best. You had an experience to be responsible under your pressures, better than being neutral, losing time, mood, and opportunities. In other words; you still have time to do some useful and fruitful effort to achieve a positive result. So find yourself a reason that deserves to do more efforts to ….(here: to learn that), benefit from your time, and invest in it (like in economy +0.01 means a growth and it’s a positive indicator).

    Simply; when you’ve to do something in a certain period, you know it’s very important, so try to do it perfectly, do your best during that period and benefit the most possible you can from it, right! At least when you fight for your goal, you won’t regret later if you lose it.

    That was an example to show the matter how to motivate yourself. You can compare this example with everything in your life that you’ve a project to do, an interview of job, an exam, a presentation, …etc. we don’t neglect some fun from time to time, but it deserves some seriousness from you in order to achieving your goals in life and improving your career. And remember! Because you’re convinced that it’s so important matter for you and your life, and you’ve to do it in the end; so find for yourself the suitable motivation to do it. When you create that inner motivation (or renew it again), you won’t give up even if you stop for years, you’ll retake again one day later.

    Next time; we’ll discuss another matter, it’s depending to one of the human values in life.

Is the matter valuable, to deserve more effort?

    All people are wishing to achieve a lot of things in their lives everyone in the entirely world is working on a plan to get a result in the end in order to make his life comfort, it’s concerning his family, study, career and job, and then it’ll be easier than before.

    But the plan doesn’t work correctly sometimes, and several factors comes within events of daily life suddenly and unexpected, so these factors show the going on plan and add more pressures in the matter, which leads to giving up before reaching the , where the person feels himself remaining in the same place too.

    No enough resources, no free time, no possibilities to do right now, …etc, in general; it’s going to the same sense of “no motivation”, then what to do in that situation?

   When you find yourself in that case, you’ve to handle it by yourself firstly you estimate your target again, does the matter deserve to fight for it? and goal (to work on) is important in your next life? May I give an example here, a student who learns a new language who tried long time with no progress in his linguistic level, so he feels disappointed after that and thinks to abandon. But the answer of that question is depending on your needs, is it important really for you to get that thing (to speak that language in future, maybe it’s job or post-graduating, …etc) ? if it’s the fact , so you shouldn’t stop definitely your learning even if you take a break time, but make it temporary only! Because in every time you remember what you planned to gain in your life after ending that matter (here: being fluent let me do…., and …etc ), it pushes you to be motivated again for the serious working and sets fire in your heart to be hopeful for being like you already planned and like you see in your vision. That’s what’s called the inner motivation regardless to the environment around.

    How to do that? You already estimated the importance of your doing and the necessity to getting for improving your career in next years. So you’re obliged to create the motivation by yourself to keep moving on. Because you don’t need anybody to remind you again that it’s something so important for you and you’ve to do it, and, …etc. I continue with the same example: you’ll have to spend a certain time in class (maybe some hours every week), and you’ll insist to be present and you paid also your fees. So why you can’t pass that time in learning seriously when you’ve to pass it in all cases?

    In the next article, I’ll give another example to tell some reasons make you think about your own business (whatever its kind) and how to push yourself ahead in getting your goal when you really believe that’s precious for you. 

Is the asking of advice making us look weaker?

    In the same context of the previous articles; when we said that the human life is a part from social life, and it can’t continue normally separately alone. when you think that your existence is a part from social existence; you’ll deal and interact with people more and many great values appear and strengthen. So you communicate, discuss different matters, help and asking help too. That’s the way that people develop in their minds, find out different cultures and knowledge, and get always new perspectives.

    Every one passes by bad circumstances, and some hard times come across his life’s irregular moments, in those times; the problems weaken the person who undergoes them in somehow. Sometimes the situation leads to the matter that we already talked about in last two articles “the loneliness”, and this choice isn’t pleasant neither likable.

    But some others; they prefer to overcome these cruel times in way to face them instead the isolation. So they look for an exit or outlet to exceed the circumstance that they have currently. They think about a way to handle it, regardless if it’s a moral problem or depending to some life’s responsibilities.

    The smartest people are who share this situation with others to contributing in the way to resolve the problem, two minds are thinking together it's better than one only, and when three minds are thinking it's the best. And the luckiest people too are who find the suitable person to share with. You’ll add more experiences to yourself although you didn’t experiment them or test them at all. And that protect you to be mistaken in your next step and what you should do among a lot of choices. Through the advice you can get rid of your fogginess and you won’t be confused anymore.

    Whatever; we all know that your brain can do the necessary and it’s enough, but we are talking for the better option, for example, when you ask about an opinion, they think in free and they look to the matter from different perspective than yours. In contrast; with concerned person can’t do it normally in many times because of pressures of short time or having a bad mood, no energies for doing, …etc, don’t allow a quiet reflection.

    If you didn’t find with whom you share and ask advices to make a clear view about your actuality to pursue the life, work.., it doesn’t mean that it’s bad choice to let others contribute in solution of your problems, they are just suggestions when you listen well and in the end it’s your decision to choose what to do next. Probably you didn’t meet yet such as cruel circumstance for this reason or that, and it’s not weakness when you ask advice from the true person whereas it’s just an advisory option in order to light your mind by a different though, economizing your energies in road, and shortening time toward the solution and getting your target easier.

    We’ve a saying that says: “the fruits of experiences are the good choice”, and the asking of advice - when it’s necessary - sometimes; enters within this point. To get benefits from the fruits of gardens besides of yours.

The loneliness is a personal advantage or a social disease (part 02)

    The loneliness starts from a feeling of nobody understands correctly your needs, thoughts and your interests in life, then those people don’t find the essence of themselves (don’t feel their true value as persons), they suffer from some of marginalization in somehow, after that they don’t find any role they can do in life which brings depression, then more sadness, psychological instability ….(bad feelings too). So they prefer to be lonely more to not show their weakness and avoid talking with others even don’t discuss the matter except when it’s necessary. Because no one understands them, and again more depression more sadness until trending toward drugs, drinks, or suicide sometimes.

     I know sometimes you need to stay with yourself to renew your energies and discover yourself again, that’s logical to do, but to isolate yourself from any human interaction, that’s the wrong part in the matter. Maybe you blame yourself because of failures, your body lives in present whereas your feelings and spirit remained in past. You won’t have any progress in your life in this way.  And there is a saying: if you can’t change the circumstances; change your position and your attitude toward them! Look differently to the matter! And the live will flow in the other direction.

  How to do with them?

    Everybody needs help and support, it’s the social life and if you did a great job whereas no one evaluates or estimates well your work, you won’t like what you did, and you won’t enjoy your success at all, because it looks valueless work. Else when your work gets appreciation, and it looks valuable you feel pleasant and really you did something worth. And that’s the social life and the ordinary interaction with people.

    Moreover your destiny will bring to you who can help you in critical times; therefore you’re required to see when others are in need of your help or at least need your understanding as well. To not lose this person in the maze of loneliness; it’s preferably to bring him out by the sincere feeling of the understanding. When the person gets an impression that’s possible to find who can understand him, we won and we did a great achievement. Then the most important thing to do is the trust, it’s the channel to make this person feels your support and understanding, feels his existence in the real world as a member like everyone, all that to let him start talking with someone and break the wall of silence, it’s the first step.

    Secondly try to define for him his role in life (define again: remind him what he’s now? What can he do? And what should he think for to do?), and help to make a clear view for him to continue the life ahead. New dimensions ..with new horizons.

    If it’s in your responsibility or in your work to escort someone, you should provide the necessary help, show him the positive sides in his life, suggest him to join cultural or sportive clubs, improve some new skills and motivate him to learn something new in line with his tendencies, and also offer the guidance to achieve something valuable according to his interests, that recall to him self-esteem, and strengthen his confidence in himself.

How to do if you don’t find help?

    I know that the hardest times for each person are when he’s in need to close people - to standing beside him- and he couldn’t find that support from them, I mean when they aren’t available in the right time.

   The time is going on and you can’t stop the life, just you make yourself in vicious circle like living without existence and I think it isn’t fair enough for yourself. Probably that you don’t find who can help you to overcome that because it’s bad situation that you’re, so what should you do in this case?

    Break the routine! Change the things that you are used to do them every day, especially in weekend if you haven’t time in other days. If you’re working all days, you’re exhausted, go to have some fun (outside the work environment), plan to spend some time with family, friends, go to cinema, theatre, the park, the zoo,…etc or travel to a different city or country maybe.

    All the different kinds of pressures - from several responsibilities in life - lead to exit the life (in fact quit his existence as an active member), but the life doesn’t work like that, we should make effort to override all those, like I mentioned in many previous articles on this blog. Try to be in touch with others more, and discover how many people are different according to your tastes, you'll discover other things yourself within and how much you’ll be pleasant in your life.

The loneliness is a personal advantage or a social disease

   When the life is going for nothing useful, the person feels himself in empty circle, especially when this feeling is mixed with impression of no goal to like for and no need to be exist in this world. Those feelings lead to a sadness and make this person disappointed from the entirely life.

   People in those situations prefer to stay alone for a while, although the world became like a small city and all this big jam of social communication in different ways and means, but many people stay feeling by the loneliness in life because of no true people in fact beside, nobody cares. This feeling increases when you really don’t find anyone beside in times when you need to have someonein time when the family ties are broken more and more.

   The society looks coherent but if you check inside (nearly) you find out that many people are separated and living separately in their thoughts, their feelings, their goals ( regardless to living near of far from people). Everyone sings a different musical piece without harmony between them, this is the fact in our societies.

   And the loneliness becomes a kind of lifestyle for many people, because they don’t interact enough with others, sometimes it’s depending to personal convictions that everyone can live by himself and only. And for some reasons they don’t trust people, so they prefer the loneliness as an inevitable choice, their eyes start see the darkness without any bright face to the world.

   But the human life is based on social interactions and deal with people, so we can’t continue a normal and ordinary life if we choose to go mentally far from the society and stay alone when we’re obliged to remain within it.

   That’s why some people look for companionship through new technologies when they failed to find suitable mates that in daily life, not just to enjoy their time, have fun or make friends, but because they suffer from loneliness in real life whereas they’re surrounded by a lot of people and everything important for living.

    If we see the matter generally we find: when the people get encouragement, they work seriously to achieve what they’re working for. Whereas they give up when they don't get attention or enough care…etc. and that’s what happens in fact.

    We learn the success from successful experiences and people in the world when you spend your life with others, you’ll find the solidarity spirit, giving help, the morally and physically support, standing by side of each other…etc, you'll be ready to provide help in the same way that you wish to get when you need it.

   But I can say that those qualities disappeared today (in different degrees from place to another) unfortunately because of majority are looking only for themselves regardless to world around.

An overview of previous articles about democracy

    We talked I last 10 articles basically about one topic only, “the democracy of new century and its faces” and we tried to discuss the matter from different sides, political, religious, social, and economical.

    We mentioned the historical point about the democracy and the context which it took to be in the way we know today. Also the discussion shown some parts of its principles and main one regarding to the absolute freedom of human power with no interference from his religion and we brought some evidences besides makings questions, that background intervenes directly in every position comes in front of whether human being,  organization or government.

    The second aspect, about social life into the shade of the known democracy, displayed numerous problems inside, and how the life isn’t look the same like it appears generally, when we find out the details in depth of societies.

   The last one was talking mainly about the economic side, and this last has huge troubles and instability from the governmental procedures and regulations until reaching the simple income of family. And the world suffers from the inequality in different part of life and several degrees. Moreover the last writings gave some experiences from other places with different perspectives too. All those were only to spread this knowledge, in order to get benefits all together and exchange experiences which are efficient practically.

   This small study didn’t get a big impression and I saw that the majority of people in our world aren’t interested in those topics and issues, although it’s very important to have a glance about them, and think how the life is going in fact.  In next articles I hope that they’ll be more interesting and touch a different side too, because we always try to discuss the important matters in life for everyone.

Lending money by rates or simply the usury (part 02) : a different perspective

   When many economist admit the practical working of usury in monetary system now, and they justify that implementation by reason of the missed opportunities, today; many others are bearing the idea of cancelling the usury from all commercial contracts and lending policies, including practical Christians and Muslims who consider that as a violation of God’s legislation, in case of the big gap between the rich people who become richer, and the poor who became poorer too with time when many people can’t pay their interests regardless to the origin debt and its services which denotes a new crisis in the road. And the authorities prefer to escape forward in hoping to get results, but they don’t know how much they waste from time and from other hidden and fruitful experiences until now, or maybe deliberately isolated, but they agree also that these economic benefits of usury, “make enormous problem from ethical and philosophical aspects”.

    The Islamic banks provide several ways to invest in money avoiding the usury transactions, the first experiences in this way were unilateral tries since the forties of last century until seventies in Dubai. Then these experiences are expended in many countries when the UK integrated these transactions as a part among their financial systems to collecting more and bringing an important amount quantity from Muslim community in there.

    There are 7 or 8 faces of financial products in Islamic banking, and I’ll mention here the most important of them like:  “al-murabah” (win-win) or “al-musharakah” (contribution in the capital, and whether in benefit or losses), direct or indirect investments. Besides; some other procedures and mechanisms (which we can explain all of them in one article or two) to insure the legal transactions between people, organizations or banks.

    From their benefits on global economy, these rules decrease the inflation rates, because the money is used just in legal investments, and not to make a large expenditure without production increases the volume of cash without exchanging for foods or services. And we get a monetary inflation in fact. The Islamic perspective is based on the principle of lending money without zero interests but with a deadline of course. But in case of “procrastination” and delay in payment of debts, what should we do if someone exceeds that deadline?

Regardless to the sinfulness toward the god (the reason which push the majority of people to rushing in payment); the logical sanctions are the imprisonment, inhibition him from the licit advantages for whole people, prevention from the financial facilities in his transactions and the reputation of - person/organization/company- in business generally.

    And from practical solutions we can cite: the collaboration between banks and financial institutions against those who delayed intentionally to pay off their debts to adding them into the blacklist.  Or like it is going now by holding on some of his properties to the bank or the entering of bank by a certain portion with the debtor in his realties.

Lending money by rates or simply the usury

    I talked in two previous articles about “Ez-zakah” and I discussed the matter how to proceed the way to make an equality between people in their incomes. But the content was talking only about the cash sources to support the fund of this institution, because there are other sources are existing also to share them like we do with money and apply them too for the same purpose, like the agricultural crops yearly and livestock which are regarded as an asset too. Today we’ll turn to another topic knowing that we’re staying in the same context.

    This March, the EU bank cuts the benchmark of interest rate until 0% to stimulate economy, not only in Europe, even in US, Canada and Japan, the banks cut the interest rate to the negative rates, in order to insure some recoveries for economy and avoid the case of collapse or recessions, but the problem can be worse, in brief when the risks of inflation increase because of the big amount of money created and delivered without stock of gold or foreign currency, which leads to falls of prices then the weakening of production’s cycle, so the question is: what’s the harm on economy because of the existing of interest high or less from banks?  And why these rates of interests make negative effects on economies’ growth?

    From definition; the usury is an illegal action to lending money at high rates of interest. From the Christian perspective, clear chapters from the bible preventing the deal on usury. But the church –after many centuries- distinguished between the people in the same society about the way how to apply on them these rules of interests (the nobles were like victims who deserve to get compensations, else the money will stay between hand of church instead to direct toward poor), “that fact strengthen the financial power of church into the society.” so this practice is forbidden from all religions on account of its bad consequences on the economy, and social life in every society.

    Although the term “usury” is widely taken to mean “excessive interest” (which is never defined how many exactly) or illegal interest, now the usury is defined as a practice to lend the money with an interest.  This interest is fixed by time, and when the time isn’t enough to return (money + interest); this last will grow up more and more

    A European study about the “usury laws in EU” said it its main finding that usury ceiling had led to a high degree of exclusion from small loans for poor people in those countries and created a market of illegal lending.

    Of course, government policy for decades has been to encourage lenders to provide mortgage loans to lower-income families, “In this way, homeownership would be impossible to all but the wealthiest people they do”. That looks unjust in somehow when people can’t guarantee the basic needs for a normal life to a family (I mean to have a shelter). In the next article we’ll continue a second part to show a different perspective too going on the same way to fight the usury.

Some details about Ez-zakah mechanism

    I talked in the previous article about one important mechanism “EZ-ZAKAH” and I displayed generally how this system can affect on people’s life, like the social benefits on people, and the big results of equality in incomes even we don’t reach 100% but we can obtain better than we're in now. This system was used in past and its effectiveness has proven. But I didn’t mention how the mechanism is applied and how is the way exactly to apply that?

    To make it more obvious for people who read before, I’ll review some details:

    In first place; It isn’t easy to make rich people dispense of some of their money annually, and that calls in minds that the matter is depending on kind of attitude (conduct / manners), which work in starting from the human belief of whether charity and obligation to do. The feeling of guiltiness “in this way” is greater than when it comes “in policies’ way”. I mean the religious aspect in the human character, people can deceive rules but they can’t deceive themselves when there is a true belief inside, it’s necessary so to complete the integrity and sincerity of human being, and i talked before that we can't make a strict rules of all (social, economic and cultural sides) of society’s life without interference of manners and religions too.

    Secondly, i didn't mention the people who really deserve this money, besides to say they're 8 kinds of people, besides the strict procedures are detailed in this mechanism to function correctly and efficiently. And these people who deserve to get this amount of money, they're also needed to have some qualities (ethic), so like the first one accepts to give his money, the second also must have some characteristics. And that brings the mutual confidence and trust between all people in the same society, especially when they see the positive effects of their money appearing in the fact.

    Thirdly, I can notice some kinds who deserve to get that money, and give examples for that. The poor people (in 2 parts: who haven't the food even for one day, and who can't provide to themselves everything necessary to live (basic for life)). It’s a right for those in bondage and those in debt. For the wayfarer people who travel in everywhere for study or seeking livelihood. The people who employed to administer and gather that big money from rich people in all provinces, also they have a portion, like charitable projects,....etc and other kinds as well. The students (in different ages) also get their finance from this money. And every kind - among these 8 kinds - has a defined portion, precisely.

     It’s true that the world has a huge diversity between people, and that appears also in their experiences, and they’re amazing and successful experiences which are able to change our world is we apply them, a lot of experiences are in different nations and accumulated for several years to be fruitful. If we learn from each other and share the valuable knowledge (wherever it is), we can get many benefits and have better life in all sides mentioned above.