the dialogue, the best way of communication (to keeping your relationships)

    Nobody disagrees that the dialog is important in life between people, and through it we can make a platform for our relationships and understand each other, regardless to the type of these relations. But: some people prefer their impression to define the way of communication with others, and they interpret by their minds only instead to make debates and talking explicitly.

     I give you some examples: “my friends didn’t call me last 2 weeks and I think this friend is angry at me”, or “there’s something new, it happened but my friend didn’t tell me about it yet, and i heard from others. I think there is a problem when he (she) didn’t tell me immediately about it”.  Even now “I just THINK”, right !!! And I’m sure that you’ve that in your life, with friends, colleagues, at least it happened once. And many other examples are in people’s life. The problems appear when you let your thoughts go far and without any criteria you start to react from them, which are made of your fiction only, in many times so far from the fact. Your imagination brings you this reasoning and these conclusions to destabilize your relations with this person or that friend, and probably it’ll be broken in the end.

    It was nice to so do something better (before tiring your mind by empty thinking, and interpret something aren’t true), it’s better to talk directly with the concerned person in the matter, and shorten your way.

   I advise you (in your talking) to use the decency of dialogue, don’t rely on your thoughts at all, ask: “what happens?” in first, what’s the strange income in last days? The reasons which lead you to this situation. Then inquire about the details, make a positive dialogue, honest conversation, because when the other person clarifies the matter to you, certainly you’ll avoid a lot of conflicts in your mind, and with this person (friend or colleague,..).

   That it happens often between friends, and sometimes these thoughts let the relation in forested position, you shouldn’t forget that your goal to get a progress, not to establish the proof on this friend that he (she) is wrong. In order to strengthen the relation not to look like winner and lose people who are around you. Remember that always before doing any stupid reaction can make you regret.

   My friend, if you’ve anything about me, or any strange feeling about me; please I’ll be grateful if you tell me honestly about it, and we can talk about the matter and handle everything together, it’ s better than staying in doubts.

   Don’t let your thoughts fill the gaps in your mind to give answers, and these guesses decide in your place and define your treatment with people, there is always a way better to keep your relationships well, when you talk clearly and hear what the other side has in mind, you can understand the answer, after that you can judge and decide.

our relashionships .. with family memebers (2)

    The family is considered the basic cell in the society and we can’t reach to stability of society if we don’t reform this important element. The contemporary lifestyles touched a lot the strength of family ties and affected on them, and many families stay only relied by the same name, and that’s only what gathers them in fact. Sadly these situations hurt many people in different degrees.

    When the parents were playing with their children for a long time, today the technology takes the mission from them. The lifestyles today with these new technologies and a lot of business, all that let people in family like machines, and they rarely meet themselves and sit in the same place. Therefore the care of family - almost - has no priority in the human life and the relations became weak more and more.

    I said in the previous article that some families are like enemies, and I repeat again now: if someone in in family turns back on you, you don’t do the same and turn your back on him (her, them) you should confront the bad treatment by the good treatment that it proves your high qualities. I confirm to you to think again and take a step to reform your relations. I don’t tell you it’s easy to do it, but it can be easier if you look from another aspect to the matter, and the pains disappear (or -at least- they’ll decrease) when we forgive less than when we keep a certain distance away from them.

   I wonder from one thing; when someone didn’t talk to his (her) brother (or sister, parents) for months or for few years maybe, so what’s the meaning of the brotherhood in your dictionary? Which meaning do you have for the words: brother, sister, parents, family; if you can’t forgive the mistakes of your brother, or sister, or any member in family? I tell you: you can’t define clearly them to me now if you’re in this situation, and you can't give a strict definition. Because these words have no sense and the meaning is empty from your side.

   if you want to satisfy yourself and give yourself some answers about your truth, I ask you to strengthen your relationships with family by “respecting the elderly members, visiting family members, checking on them, helping them, showing mercy to youngsters, offering support to all in times of joy and sorrow.”(Dr.Al-Nabulsi)

   All this good treatment brings you the happiness and expresses your real value in the life. That’s the way to give us finally reformed society (for our safety) by strengthening the family ties, because it’s the missed thing in the world and it’s the spirit of the civilization.

     In brief: I ask you to care more about these matters in your life with family, especially with parents of one of them. Because you won’t give them their rights on you whatever you do good for them.

Our relationships .. With our family members.

     The family; we can’t preferring anything else instead of them, they’re always in the first place and we feel more safety when we see them around. In some cases the relationship with one member among them or maybe more, - this relationship- suffers from some troubles, and unfortunately for years also it’s broken between the brothers and sisters.

     That’s our topic today, we’ll define the nature of these relationships, and moreover we’ll find a way to treat them in the goodness.

     I met many people and friends too who told me that they’ve problems in their families; they see that’s impossible to handle them, because the reactions were worse too. Problems with uncles and aunts, even with brothers and sisters “it’s so awful really.”

    We start with some questions: when it was the last time where you sit with your parents and you talked to them for while in different topics? Or may I ask about the last call between you and them?!!! Many people wished to have a sister and you can’t see how much you’re lucky to have this sister? Regardless if she’s sometimes stubborn, but she’s your sister; right? I think it’s a much luck and it’s very good feature to have her (or his). I heard about many people who wish to have a sister or brother, they wish to meet their parents once, but they can’t because the dead can’t return to life again.

    In family; you all like each other so much; you’ll have these conflicts sometimes and because of this strong reliance and love between you; you always return to each other and continue again like nothing happened before, because the love overcomes the anger and the forgiveness wins finally

    I expect this end for some reasons, if your brother or sister is “Soft-headed”, I don’t think that you’re also the same, else you’ll react badly too. If you’re still reading now so I guess you want to find a solution for this kind of situations.

    The life is so short, and remember always that you’ll regret the days where you’re far from the family, I don’t mean by “far” in the physical distance, but the distance between hearts. Even they behave wrong with you, you shouldn’t react wrong, or you confront them with their bad deeds, and you should correct that and keep this warm relation to continue more. They’re humans and they can do mistakes, else why I’m his brother (her sister) if I can’t forgive him (her)? That’s why we’re a family.

    We all need a second chance and be optimist to get great relationships, because the only “thing to correct the mistakes of others is: to do the right thing in return when you react. “The forgiveness (the tolerance) is the first step to reach the happiness.” Later I’ll talk more about the family ties, like a symbol of humanity and model of human life. We’ll be glad if you share us your opinions and comments.