The planning separates between the real and unreal goals.

   I mentioned in a previous article, and I made difference between goals and dreams, maybe you spend several years and nothing you achieve at all, then you regret about it, and maybe you ask yourself what’s the problem with me that I can’t do anything, whereas some other can do? So in fact we’re in one from two cases “relaxing dreams” or “realistic dreams”, what Today we’ll talk about, is one (among many) widespread methods to plan for your goals.

   Firstly; the goal must be written on papers, and if you tell me that you know your goal, and they’re in your mind, so that doesn’t work. There are many methods to plan for personal goals or for organizations, like SWOT, POSEE, PMSP…etc. And to knowing more about these, you can check all the different ways.

  Secondly; The goal mustn’t be general (when you say for example: I want to be rich, or I want to lose 20 kilos of my weight, ..etc), because this kind of goals mean you’ll waste more of time, mean more of costs, more of tiredness, the  results are negligible, but the goal must be very specific. Therefore the most the most widely way used in these cases is S.M.A.R.T.

  S: Specific: the goal must be very specific and defined, so instead to say “I want to succeed”, or “I want to improve myself” you must specify in what exactly you want to succeed/ improve yourself? And say:” I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills.”

  M:Measurable: you can measure your goal periodically in order to know where you are now? And that let you see the obstacles which hamper your progress and compare the remaining (percentage with time) it’s good to know your steps in road to achieve your aim and make the necessary modification. The known rule says: “IF YOU CAN NOT MEASURE IT, YOU CAN NOT MANAGE IT”. And our goal becomes: “I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills through reading 10 books and Attend 2 training courses (internship).”
  A: Attainable / Agreed: in this step, we find a difference between the planning for personal goal, and planning for the goals of organization respectively.  Take your time for this planning and ask yourself how can you realize your goal? your qualifications, your means, and the agreement between “leaders of organization” about the details of this goal. (*Organization can be an association, a company, or a ministry, …etc.)

  R: Realistic: simply this part means that the good goal must be “difficult” & “possible”, and here I advise you to avoid the goals which aren’t compatible with your actual powers, skills, and resources. We continue in the same goal: “I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills through reading 10 books and Attend 2 training courses.” It’s a logical goal and not unreal, right !!.

  T: Timed: the goal has to be limited by time, the deadline to achieving your goal, because the opportunities become less when you the time is missing in the plan, and it becomes an opened goal (without confines), it isn’t important when you will realize it and it’s only a wish. The most important is the time of the end to compare with it. The same example becomes: “I want to improve myself in the computer’s skills through reading 4 books and Attend 2 training courses during 6 months.” You see!! And this is the final form of the goal.

    So in brief: the goal must be: Specific & Measurable & Realistic & Timed. If your goals aren’t compatible with these conditions, so you need to think again and plan from the beginning. And that’s what the sciences said.

If you want to make more details in your goal, when you plan for the available means to attain this goal, you follow the same previous steps S.M.A.R.T, and don’t forget to make a written plan for your goals.

the true value isn’t the same like we see (part 2).

   I said in the previous article how we evaluate some matter by wrong ways, it’s easy when we deal with things in our lives but it’s a little sensible with people. As I said before; what seems easy, it’s not in the reality, if we meditate well, we’ll find it as the resultant for many previous works you did them separately. Which means you should appreciate that and make it valuable too although you think that you got it easily. That appears clearly when the matter concerns the way of dealing with the nature. We don’t appreciate it as the same what it deserves, we don’t care seriously about it, therefore we start lose a lot from its features. You can understand what I mean now, right ! So take the same example on different matter in your life.

   People are different in their characters from good to bad, from calm to the arrogant, surely you experimented these in your life and you met from all kinds. When the person is humble, kind, friendly, you feel comfort with this person and your relationship can develop to be better and stronger.

  You find the suitable climate to strengthen this relation because the other side allowed that, and you don’t see it so important for you really. The way was easy to have this person in your life therefore you don’t present a good treatment, he (she) doesn’t get a huge interest from your side, usually you don’t care a lot about that. In the same time when your knowledge to this person took your interest (according to this person’s position in life), you did some efforts to strengthen the relation and you tire yourself to broaden it (usually that happens mutually), for some reasons, maybe a business gathered you in one way together, or work, or any interesting project in this worldly life. The both of you are cautious in every step to keep the nature of relation and let it's going normally, and the both of you see its importance (perhaps because of reciprocal benefits) with time you can see the fake goodness of some people around you and the true of others.

   When you see a person who forgives your mistakes, tolerant with everything you do it, don’t think that because of weakness of this person’s personality, he (she) did that willingly although there are many other reactions possible, he (she) preferred this doing for certain reasons, and not because he (she) is absurd.

   In brief: you respect somebody when you consider them care a lot of about your being with them, because they seem (and you think that) precious people, however; you don’t care about your doing or your reactions against the person who looks like easy to get (in your mind of course). And that happens often between friends.

   In the end, maybe you can’t see their true value (of these people) even you made them impatient with you and they leave you forever, there you feel what you really lose in your life. It’s precious to have these people in your life. Usually we don’t see the importance of these people starting from the family members even we lose them.

  The true value of every person appears when this person shows you his (her) respect and care every time (it’s a grace when you get care from others and they like you, appreciate your opinions, your advices). Many people haven’t what you have; only you don’t appreciate that. If you don’t see it, you’ll regret later when you don’t find these nice people by your side (neither the bad people who look for their benefits, nothing else).

  If you don’t think seriously to keep this grace – these precious people around you-, you’ll lose them, right, and perhaps you won’t get the chance to find like that companionship in all the next years of life.

the true value isn’t the same like we see

   When we seek for obtain a lot of things in your life, of course (without any doubt) you won’t get all what you wish. But certain ones of them you’ll have them. We’ve abilities to realize them and we’ve means also which differ from a person to another.

(* Ability: the human power used to treat, to do, to analyse, and to react about something.)

(* Possibility: cover the available means and conditions around you in order to facilitate your steps on the road to do something.)

   I’m not talking today about the first side ( the mentally differences between people), we’ll discourse about the second side which concern basically the environment, and sometimes we meet difficulties where we test rightly these various powers and tools to realize these wishes in the fact.

   Usually; you do an enormous effort to get them, and this effort let you estimate how much us valuable this result. When the work was hard to do something, later; you estimate it as a precious thing for your life.

   In the other hand ; when you get something easily or without making any effort maybe other people helped you or bring it to you, you won’t make any care or value for this thing, because you can have it in anytime you want it ( it’s between your hands and he’s you who commands ).

   Remember now what’s the actual goal you work to achieve it, and how you think it’s important for you, maybe this goal is a good business deal, or graduating, investment or any project means a lot for you. What are the reasons make you think that they’re important? {Simply because you know that the precious things can’t come in easy}. Maybe it’s true and I agree with you but relatively only, let me tell you why.

   When you get something without effort surely you don’t make a big care about it, and you insult that because if you lose it you can hold it again (Like keys in your hand). So many things in your life look so precious in your opinion, but in fact they aren’t. You worked seriously to obtain them, in result to earn from it later, therefore you’re eager to obtain it and spend your time, your resources (waiting for the happy results).

    What I want to clarify here is: what we own in easy (maybe) or just it seems like that, and we don’t evaluate it. We don’t feel how much it’s necessary for the actual condition even we lose it. In that time we see how wrong we were before, and we were like foolish people because we didn’t evaluate rightly the matter. In that time the regret won’t be useful for you. It’s normal to be mistaken in case of when you can correct that later and maybe to possess the missed things again, but how can you do when he matter is a person? The next article will show the details of this aspect.

Be vigilant! , Don’t jump on the ladder to don’t fall down on the floor.

   When we’re young; we’ve many different wishes in the life, also the dreams are in the top degree because of many reasons, principally immaturity of these young sometimes, and in many other times the big hole between the theoretical thinking (wishes) and the life in fact. These young people get the first shocks when they are confronted with the reality outside home and university. It seems a little different to what you’d in mind “before”.

   Before this time you had less of responsibilities, less of obligations to do, but now you must work, activate, be a productive person, to have your own life and be responsible on everything depend to you.

   In the first time, this young thinks “maybe it’s a temporary event, a temporary crisis, and everything will be –soon- okay and like in the plan. But many times it isn’t true; it won’t be as you planned. And when you can’t continue in this way, You should be flexible with the matter and adopt a little with your environment.

   In these times; you should make a distinction between two things which you confused already between them, the ambition, and the dream. The first one means: something is difficult to get it, hard to achieve it, but it’s possible to do (with a certain time), the second means: it’s impossible to realize that in the reality because of many reasons they could be (the time, the environment, the abilities, the temporary life conditions, and maybe we can mix them too…)

   It’s an important idea for the next days, the next years and all your life, why important? To regulate the plan, to modify and adopt your direction, remove something, add others, classify priorities, ..etc, I don’t want to fix you here, or make you disappointed from that, the dreams are existing in the human life, they come in minds to let us keep the hope and don’t surrender, but your sitting between dreams and your imaginations is like a drug for your mind to live a virtual life. (Keeping in mind the previous separation between ambition and dream), because it doesn’t let you do anything in fact. You just decoy yourself when the time is going on.

“If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place”

  This idea (of regularization \ of self-organization) will be always with you, and every time you’ll have some breakpoints to apply that and adopt again your new direction. There are many ways to define the gaols so that you have them, -probably I will talk about that in the next articles -.

  It’s the wisdom to deviate a little far from your way, but you don’t leave your headlines which you already drew them. When you look back and see the traces of your steps, you can evaluate them only if you’re objective with yourself. So as not to break your heart or to block your mind, to not waste yourself and your life; think about efficient goals in your life to feel positively and can to do more; later, and make them (these goals) as intermediate step for your targets, and don’t jump from the first step toward the goal. You’ve to be patient and don’t hurry to get immediate results.

  Of course; you still keep your goals with you, and you’ll work until the end to realize your aims and to get those targets in the life, but maybe in different way (According to the environment around you).

  You’ll have some opportunities in the road, and also obstacles from the same nature -from time to time-. If you’re clever enough you’ll invest in these moments to cross many steps in your life, and achieve your regulated goals (according to actual conditions) in the end.

When the failed try means the luck and it can be successful.

People today want to learn more, work, study, learn always how to make plans from life, plan to develop their careers, to realize several purposes corresponding the interests in life, and the life imposes these differences between them, especially young people who like to achieve something because they’re so ambitious and it’s good when you realize important step, and (after that) you feel so happy because of it. It’s a motivation for you to do more and more in your life.

That’s the ordinary scenario and the general way of human life, but sometimes he winds don’t run where the boats wish to go, and you meet some obstacles in the road, you failed in your try to realize this important thing for your life. Many people disappointed from it, and it’s logical reaction because the wish didn’t become real yet. Sometimes worse, I mean when you get in mind to stop thinking definitively to doing that again.

That’s true but it should be temporary, which means: you can try again with different way and you’ll have surely different results in the end.

We’ve a saying tells: “every horse has a stumble, and every skilful had a lapse” there it’s normal if you meet such frustration when you tried to achieve something and tell me honestly: “how many cases like you in the world? And how many case like that happened with you and they made you stronger than before, wiser than before, lead you to learn many things in the road only because you experimented them through those tries”.

If you stop trying now, I can make sure that it’s impossible to do anything, because there is no effort (null inputs). A lot of people got a great success in the life (which they never imagine it), they got it in the second try after losing in the first. They got a big change in life, immense transitions in their subways from this domain to another, They found their new ways differently to the previous, they had (and have) different lives now; in this case the failed try was a gift for them to find the way, to achieve a valuable career(furthermore the experiences).

The main point is when you failed to do something rightly - according to your plan - and don’t realize your aim, it doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to do (at reverse) it’s just “a try” is failed for some certain existing reasons. Now you’ve an experience about the matter, new input will give you a new output (of course it’ll be different than the previous).

When someone in the world already succeed to do it - before you - so you can do it also now, you shouldn’t surrender, because the distinction is so clear between “the failed try” and “the impossibility”, this is the difference in your mind.

There is a possibility somehow to do and to get your targets, you mustn’t stop trying when you still alive. Your experiences bring to you the wisdom to treat your next days in the life with a good way.