The importance of the belief (part 01)

    I was talking with a friend when she told me that she wishes:” I just want to be with a man of a strong faith.”  Then she continued that: “Nowadays I see a lot of couples living in civil marriage not being officially married. It’s so sad: (To spend a long time with a person and when you get tired of him just break up ... And yes, I do know what happened to modern guys here, all are scared about marriage: (So that’s why I said that I’m looking for a person with faith, because religion gives us instruction about marriage and we should follow that to be better.) and I’ve heard about many women too who wished to have a man fearing god. I wondered about that request and I wanted if I can to figure out its reasons from depths.

   Of course that’s a pity when the commitment between two people is interpreted just in this superficial way, I mean, it's a big badness when we just keep close contact to someone in a strong relationship then we leave simply when we want, it means we just follow our fancy, so the leaving isn't appropriate logically because that cause a mess in society and families also in their families ties, the mess not only society but even in our minds… and that builds irresponsible person who doesn't undergo to any commitment in life about others (except his interests and benefits in life), and even if that’s temporary or in period to certain time, but the difference is not committed relation. So if we use the religious logic, we can say it's very big sin to use others for the personal fun and temporary freak. Unfortunately that’s the general majoring fact in the world and the lifestyle in modern and fast-paced life which it became a way to spread even recently in everywhere around the world.

    "The best in my opinion is the one who can understand what religion means –truely-," like my friend continued. because today most of people think that religion is useless thing in life and not time to think about, or it causes problems for the human-being so better to get rid of it. To escape they choose different ways in life -without knowing also another face for an idol -. This logic of thinking upsets many people today really, even that, but they still living the hardships and adversities, because of missing the meaning of life generally and - the essence from- why we live.

    I agreed with my friend in point that she prefers a partner with faith, rarely to find someone who's serious with the matter of religion and who considers it as a part of life. Therefore that person can give some security to his/her partner and make a safe relationship, I’ve heard and read many women who pray for having men fearing god, while I expect the same -or a bit less- from kind men in return, only because s/he evaluates the life more than it's abstract appearance, and s/he looks for more dimensions around instead shortening that into one meaningless short life, it’s not to dealing with a trade partner, also not to thinking him/herself the axis that must be pleased (whatever others are in), while everybody around must obey his/her desires.

   It's a wrong thinking that, and a kind of selfishness, do you agree with me? Don’t you think so? Because if everybody does the same; then the jungle will be more merciful than the mankind’s life. Of course many people will disagree with that, and it’s just an opportunity to think about it again!!

   In brief the relationship between two people is just an example, but we can spread that on all topics of dealing in life, the religion guarantees the sense of responsibility in the person about his environment (whether people around or something else), his care about it and not looking just to himself and desires. Religion can control the person and help him to keep control and rectify his steps even when the chosen way is the hardest but it's the safest, the most correct one and the most servable.

   Like someone was looking to the world around in 2D, it was really great view, then he opened the second eye and the view becomes in 3D which became greater. Because the religion brings an additional dimension to every behavior and let some depths in its traces. And I’ll try to explain more in next article.