the path to reach the happiness (part 1/3)

   7.3 billions of people in the world, you can’t find anybody among them who doesn’t want to be happy, all they want and have this purpose, so what can prevent us to be happy people? And why we can’t reach that every day?

   Nobody is excepted from bad conditions, and we all try to overcome them somehow, sometimes we succeed and some others not really.  And as we said already it’s an experience we learned it for the next days, but the hardest situation (in the life) is: when someone feels himself (herself) alone in the hard times. When no one can you rely on him (her).  If you’ve such as this situation I can understand what it means exactly, the people feel themselves with no value in the life in those time.

   One philosopher said: if the person is really: (the son of his parents, and of his environment, the son of his city , of his nation, …etc, if those are all true; so he’s absolutely the son of himself. Which means: your life is made of your thoughts and the result of your decisions, and everything concern you in this life is coming from your decisions. From this idea and the image below we’ll start our discussion.

Look at this picture, and let me see what your mind can tell you :

   In the picture you can see a cup of water (a known example in the world and I used to use it), and it’s (a half full / half empty), what's your choice? left or right ? Usually when someone is depressed, upset or disappointed ….etc, he uses the empty part and express like this : “I can see a cup of water, it’s half empty and it needs many to be filled“, when the person who has a good mood,  and optimistic emotions actually, the answer will be : “I can see a cup of water filled until the half, it’s not absolutely filled but I can see the water inside it.”

   It's depending to our views, and how we react with the environment around us, you’re surrounded with many conditions and your view isn’t the same if we change your mood or if we tell you bad news, it isn’t the same if you hear good news in the same position and event. I’ll tell you what’s better the first answer is “false”, so to tell the ½ filled is better than say ½ empty, which means:

   There are many things good, many advantages, many solutions, just you don't see them, and only see the empty part. You see the sadness, the negative part, the bad scenarios, ..etc. when you change the way which you see yourself, you find a lot of secrets inside you. This cup is a symbolic image for your satisfaction on yourself, and nobody has a full cup until the death of course.

  Maybe you agree with me now here in this point, and if you’ve a hard time in these days you say : “i wasn't always like this before. i don't know what came over me. usually i was strong. i wouldn't never give up but not on the contrary. “ so what happens recently ? what ‘s run with you in this time?

   Listen to me ! The life is like an exam. the obstacles aren’t to preventing us going ahead, but they are tests to make us stronger, and be ready for the next exams in the life, when you overcome something huge, you'll be stronger of course, and when you think “this test is bigger than your powers” (just it looks like that), but in fact it isn't, the difference is: if you give up from trying or not yet. And the saying says: “you don’t fail until you quit” (we talked about that previously).

   You mustn’t make your happiness relies on some wrong convictions you’ve them, and if you look differently to the matter, I mean to don’t rely your happiness on some reasons only because you think that they’ll be useful for your life, because many things look very important but in fact we’ll have a life better without them, and the inverse is correct too, now I want you ask your depths to get a clear answer,  can you look at yourself positively and discover your actual advantages, explore your abilities and all what you can do to pass this moment? Can you ? That let you see differently the life in front of you, and your acts will be surely different when you’ve the optimistic mood. The decreased self-confidence is one of reasons of the sadness. Have a sit please ! and look at yourself what you want exactly, want you to be happy ? (No one will answer “NO” of course), so what do you need more now, just decide to be happy, you shouldn’t wait to have that by luck, you need to decide how to be happy.

   It’s a truth what I’ll say now: Everyone has one advantage (at least) can make him someone special “featured person” in it. You must search about it, to shove your way toward the future.
  If you agree with me, be optimist, please ! Through trusting yourself, and believe that you can overcome all that, motivate yourself and try to increase your self-confidence, don't look at the near results, but the truth is in the end of road. And in the next article I’ll talk about some ways to find (recover) your happiness and continue your life ahead.